How Losing Someone Creates Clarity
Today, I put together a tribute video for my dad’s late wife, Deborah. It is the second one this year. On December 17, 2012, the day of my birthday, my furson (aka dog) Zack, crossed over. On his birthday, May 7 of 2013, I made a tribute video for him to celebrate his life and say Happy Birthday one more time. Today, my dad was able to say Happy Anniversary to his wife one more time.
When you lose someone be it a person or a pet, it does something to you. Not only do you feel grief, loss, sadness but you start to review your life, where you are at? What you’re doing? And are you happy? My Zack gifted me with a miracle when he passed. He awakened me. He gave his life so that I could start mine. Isn’t that the ultimate sacrifice? His transition caused me to search further on my purpose of life. It created clarity in me that I wanted to do something bigger; something more meaningful. I wanted to spiritually move people…assist them on their journey. I wanted to help on a bigger scale.
Some people will be lost in their grief. They will mourn and forget to live. They will lose their clarity in life. Their attachment to that person or pet defined them, who they were, what they were about? But some of us, will rise. We will see that the relationship was the gift and that those lessons will continue forever. It is our free will that helps us decide to move forward when we lose someone. Those left behind in the physical world still have a purpose to fulfill. You are still here because you have not yet fulfilled your purpose.
Death can sometimes bring that moment of clarity when you know that you need to change something, improve something or it will confirm that you are on the right path. I have deep gratitude for my furson Zack and for his gift of life to awaken me. Because I live so deeply by my 7 core governing clarity principles, I do not regret what has happened. I see all experiences as helping me grow as a person and a soul.
For those that are still lost in grief, I always first recommend a good therapist. Then second, I recommend the following:
- Ask yourself, what was the gift of that relationship?
- How did that relationship help you to grow?
- What was the gift when they crossed over?
- What did you learn?
- What could you now see?
- What is the gift of sadness?
- Where do you want to go from here?
- How do you want to celebrate their life through your living?
I always tell my clients to look at it from their perspective. They wouldn’t want you to be sad. They wouldn’t want you to stop living. They would want to see you smile, enjoy life and laugh. So ask yourself to see the clarity that comes from this life journey. They are not gone. They just crossed over. They are still with you in spirit. And if you close your eyes in meditation long enough you might even be able to feel them next to you.