Price of Awareness and Habitual Patterns

How a minor car accident can awaken you

A couple of days ago a very interesting experience happened to me. I have lived in my place for over three years. I have a two car garage and I am the only one who uses it, usually. It all began about three days before the accident. I came home from the office and walked into a house that had many lights on, no one home and the curtains wide open in the night. I could see my roommate at been there as their things were scattered around. I didn’t think much about it. I turned off the lights, closed the curtains and headed out for my walk. Later that evening, he mentioned that he had parked in the garage to unload his car and his car wouldn’t start. I must have just arrived shortly after he started the car and moved it to one of the parking spots outside.

The next day, he mentions to me that his car didn’t start at all and he needed to get a ride to work. He also told me that his dad was arriving the following day to help him either fix or tow the car to an auto repair shop.

The following day, I awoke as usual. Readied myself for work, walked my little Bella girl (dog) and headed into the office. All very common everyday occurrences. Nothing out of the ordinary. Now, it is important to mention two facts. One, I back into my garage everyday. The reason why is I live with an alley in the back and to me it seems easier to back in instead of backing out of the garage. Second fact, my roommate doesn’t rent the other side of the garage. In the three years that I have lived here, I have probably pulled into an empty garage over 1000 times.

On this day, I came home and by habit, opened the garage door and started to back into my usual spot which is the drivers side being closest to the garage wall. I was making sure that my driver’s side mirror didn’t hit the garage entrance when my car simply stopped backing in. I was slightly confused. It is then that I checked my passenger side mirror to see that my roommate had his car in the garage and not only that but it was parked over just enough to not allow two cars into the garage.

Our bumpers were locked together. I was in shock. I carefully drove forward and went into the house to figure out what was going on. As my roommate doesn’t rent the garage and he has never parked in there before, I was lost as to why his car was there to begin with. He then reminded me that his dad had come down and they fixed the car in the garage. He meant to move it but fell asleep before he could. The damage all in all was probably around $1700 between both cars.

It took me about 24 hours to see the gift in the experience. I do believe there is a gift in all experiences in life, even ones that we might label has bad or not ideal or heartbreaking.

The Gifts

Here is what I learned from this experience. I learned that I create my own reality.

I opened the garage and didn’t see a silver car in the middle of my garage because for over 1000 times there has not been a car in my garage. Therefore, my eyes could not see what was right in front or in this case behind me. I assumed due to previous experiences what I could expect to find. Since, I would not expect to find a car in my garage, I did not see one.

This is a deep and costly lesson in awareness and habitual patterns. If I could open a garage and not see a car, what else am I blind to?

  1. Where am I missing an opportunity that is right in front of me?
  2. Where are past experiences getting in the way of me moving smoothly to my next destination?
  3. How does habitual thinking and assumptions stop me from growing? 

This is HUGE! If in the physical world I could miss a material car, what in the emotional plane could I be missing? I realized the universe sent me this BIG, EXPENSIVE message. The message was simply to wake up. Stop doing habitual patterns. Stop assuming. Instead look at the world everyday as if you haven’t lived in it before. Don’t think you know a situation just because you can recall something similar that happened in the past. It took me 24 hours to figure this out. And now, I feel blessed that it happened. I feel honored that the universe woke me up with such a small minor accident. It could have been worse. The pain more. But instead it was simply a bruise to my ego for not having a perfect looking car.

The other item I want to mention here is that when I did wake up, I began to judge myself on the fact that it took 24 hours. All this practice in spiritual awareness, meditation and mind training, I find out I am still human. That I can still become negative in a moment and have it linger. As I woke up to that, I told myself that it is okay to be human. It is okay to once in awhile let down your spiritual guard and feel the anger, the disappointment, the guilt. I looked in the mirror and said two affirmations:



 I let go of judgement. I welcomed in acceptance.

Where do you allow habitual patterns to stop you in your tracks from not seeing what is right in front of you?

If you feel drawn to share your story, I am always blessed to receive it. Namaste.

15 replies
  1. KateLindsay
    KateLindsay says:

    What a great story. And well expressed I got so much out of it that I feel like I could have been the one to back my car into an already occupied garage. I know that I do so many things out of habit ever day. 100 times a day likely. I will think about some of them now as my day goes on, but I especially loved what you wrote about having done all this wonderful work and being surprised to find yourself having what are normal human reactions.

    Some of my habits are my reactions to things too. Some I have changed over time and with effort, but often when the emotion is a deep one, I switch to auto pilot. I automatically go to a place of judgement (I spent a lot of time there so the path to that place is very familiar) but what I have discovered through all my growth and my spiritual work is that the path back to where I really want to be has become familiar also. THAT I didn’t have just a few short years ago. Would I be right to think that there was a time in your life you would have take longer than 24hrs to find the gift ? High 5 to great personal discoveries and the oh so interesting ways in which they grab our attention!
    KateLindsay recently posted…What IS vs. What CAN BE – Equals or Rivals?

    • Connie Benedict
      Connie Benedict says:

      Yes, you are correct. Some years ago, it may have taken days even not weeks to understand the moment and the great lessons to be learned. It is with the personal development of the last few years that this has shorten. Thank you kindly for that reminder. High 5 back at ya! 🙂

  2. Paula
    Paula says:

    Connie, what a great story (true one at that!). Amazing that you came to that realization as to most people this is just an accident, nothing more and nothing less. Be conscious in our daily lives is so important otherwise we just exist! What kind of life is that? I love being mindful (although I am not always that great at it) but it’s better to learning to never learn at all. Wonderful post. Thank you for sharing 🙂

  3. Elleyess
    Elleyess says:

    Hi Connie,
    Like you I try to find the life “lesson” in everything that happens both good and bad. I’m so glad you were able to turn this incident into a positive message of awareness. This week (with its never ending beat downs and ego busters) made it hard for me to see the positive lessons but this post has given me refreshed purpose to try again. Thank you!

    Elleyess recently posted…Photo Journal: Melbourne, you had me at g’day

    • Connie Benedict
      Connie Benedict says:

      I am so happy you will look again to find the clarity in your week. I think all of us sharing our personal experiences (even the embarrassing ones) help the other people know they are not alone in their feelings. Best of luck and I would to hear what you learned from your week. Maybe a future post?!?

  4. Terry Gotham
    Terry Gotham says:

    “Before you can truly see, you must first empty your cup.” ~Something wise people told me once 🙂

    I’m so glad you’re ok, and that you’re transmuting the negativity & possible pain of the experience into something positive and wonderful. Thanks for the reminder. I had a similar experience today in the office and I’m still riding the wave. I hope deep breaths and peace find you.

    • Connie Benedict
      Connie Benedict says:

      It is true that sometimes taking those deep breaths for a mini-meditation in the moment can wake one up to seeing clarity. I have learned though to allow my feelings to really be felt and heard so that they can pass. Over the past couple of years I have practiced release instead of rationalization. This has helped me to gain clarity faster in moments labeled as negative. Acknowledge that each feeling is a gift allows me to wake up faster to the reality of the current situation.

      Thank you kindly for the quote. It is very meaningful.

  5. Marissa
    Marissa says:

    Wow! Glad you are ok and no one was hurt. Pretty amazing how you were able to gain and focus positively on the lesson here. Good for you!


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