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The Power Behind Living Life Uncomfortably

Living Life Uncomfortably

For years, I lived a comfortable life. Everything I did was for my pleasure in some way. I loved to work so working was very comfortable. I loved to play and played where I wanted to play. Yet, I grew bored, stagnant and eventually unhappy.

But the question was, “Why was I unhappy?”

I had food, clothes on my back, roof over my head. What was wrong?

I would like to take a moment here to describe what uncomfortable means to me. Uncomfortable means to get out of your comfort zone. What is a comfort zone you say? Here is what google says…

com·fort zone
noun
a place or situation where one feels safe or at ease and without stress.
“times when we must act beyond our comfort zones”

Because I didn’t challenge myself, I stayed status quo. The greatest gift anyone has ever given me is to challenge me to be a better person. So when I say uncomfortable, I mean to reach beyond your limits.

  • If you have never spoke in front of an audience, go speak in front of an audience.
  • If you have never traveled alone, go travel alone.
  • If you have never driven across country, drive across country.
  • If you have always wanted to open your own business, tell fear to step aside and OPEN your own business.

Get Uncomfortable. And try to reach that feeling all the time. Strive for it. I do. I stretch my limits. I continuously grow, learn and feel a sense of joy from my adventurous life. As the famous Eleanor Roosevelt once said:

How will you move your life forward today?

What is the one thing that you really want to do but fear keeps getting in the way?

HOW?!?

The question you should now be asking is the one I asked when I was ready to make a change. “How do I break out of this routine, behavioral rut to create a magical life?”

Yes, there is a science behind it; as least as told by Alan Henry from Mind Hacks.

Here are the steps I took from reading many blogs:

  • Change your Daily Routine. If you walk your dog the same route every morning, change the route. Instead of waking up at 7 AM, wake up at 6 AM and journal. Instead of going to cycling class every Wednesday go on Friday and on Wednesday do yoga. The goal here is to just break up your routine. See how you feel. Look for the different perspective that comes with any change. Write about it. How did that change move your life forward or confirm something about yourself? What fear presented itself because you changed the routine? If you can determine what is keeping you in that routine, then you can find the answer on how to break it.
  • Slow Down. Slowing down can be so important in our overall busy lives. I know that I move from one project to the next without even thinking about it sometimes. I am so quick in my processes that I forget to ask if this task is helping or hindering my long term goals. I think Gabrielle Bernstein has the best “wake up in the moment” questionnaire.

  • Be a YES Person. This is the one of the best methods to create magic. Did you ever see that movie with Jim Carrey called the YES MAN? The plot of the movie was a man who would always say no and hide from life. Then he decides to challenge himself to say YES to everything for one full year. I know it is just a movie, but the premise is so real. Say YES to experience. Say YES to something new. Say YES to life. As the old saying goes, if you want a life you have never had, you must take the steps you have never stepped. (yes it is my little twist ;))

One last quote from Neale Donald Walsch:

So get out there today. Get to that comfort zone line and then step over… No… JUMP OVER! Reach the place where Magic Begins.

11 replies
  1. Martin Labud
    Martin Labud says:

    I have to say, I do love that Eleanor Roosevelt quote. I’ve seen is a few years back and have tried to follow it whenever it was possible each day. I also love this new quote you’ve introduced: Life Begins at the end of your comfort zone.” Wow. I am certainly not living in my comfort zone right now, and I do feel very good about it. Comfort is not the best thing in life for me- it is to live with purpose. When my wife and I were stable with jobs (like you) we were consuming entertainment but we weren’t happy. There was always something in the background bothering us, and that’s because we both had greater purpose in mind but were not pursuing it! Now we are doing just that, and it’s beautifully uncomfortable, but exciting and a rare opportunity. Great article!

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    • Connie Benedict
      Connie Benedict says:

      Thank you Martin for sharing. I love hearing about other peoples’ stories and how they are called to a bigger cause. It is great to feel that purpose and be brave enough to go live it. We definitely need more people like you and your wife. 🙂

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  2. Mary Beth Leisen
    Mary Beth Leisen says:

    The comfort zone… It can be so… comfy. I completely agree that it’s important to get out of it, and I have, on many occasions. I do find, however, that as I get older, it can be more of a challenge to do so. The comfort zone is more comfortable, and the risk of stepping out of it seems too great. I’ve been working on pushing myself, as I really like the person I am when I do take those risks. It feels very alive and usually leads to unforgettable experiences (as well as a deep appreciation for everyday moments).

    Loved this post – and thanks for the reminder. I’ll get right on it!

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    • Connie Benedict
      Connie Benedict says:

      Mary Beth, I LOVE the challenges that you bring up. Thank you for sharing. I agree with you. As I move into a different decade of life, taking risks can sometimes come at a higher price than when I was younger. I feel the need to set myself up more or plan more before taking those leaps. Yet, when I do take those leaps off pure intuition, I find the greatest of rewards at the end of my leap. So today I practice more on faith and trust within me that I will leap onto higher ground with each new experience.

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  3. Elleyess
    Elleyess says:

    I absolutely love this post and completely agree with the necessity to feel uncomfortable. Moving beyond your safe zone is how you challenge and grow. And then ultimately where the magic happens! Thanks for sharing and inspiring me to continue to challenge!

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    • Connie Benedict
      Connie Benedict says:

      It is my purest of pleasures to share with you. So glad to inspire. And I must say, when I read your comment you inspire me right back to continue living in the magical zone of uncomfortability.

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  4. erica lawrence: naturopath - body ecologist.
    erica lawrence: naturopath - body ecologist. says:

    Loving this! Being uncomfortable is the easiest way to reignite that spark in life… the one that goes out and lends itself to unhappiness. I’ll be honest and divulge that I was over the moon when I read your check list of examples on how to become uncomfortable and I could tick them all! Hell yes!
    The last one I’m currently riding the wave of… building a business is the scariest and most uncomfortable thing I’ve ever done, yet it’s already making me happier than I could have thought possible, and it’s only in infancy (with plenty of roller-coaster, emotional moments to date). Staying tuned for the adventure…
    I’m curious, Connie, as to what you are doing to make yourself uncomfortable?

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    • Connie Benedict
      Connie Benedict says:

      WOW! I am thrilled that you are living so powerfully in this magical zone. I agree with your HELL YES!!! 😀

      Congrats on the leap for the new business! So happy for you.

      As far as me, I am completely changing my career. I have been known as computer guru for so long and graphic consultant and I am really good at those career paths. Yet, I have been brave enough to redefine myself. To recreate who I want to be and how I want to show up. I have created a new company, MoClar Moments, and have written down my thoughts for the world to see. It is scary at times but I feel my calling. I know my path and I am leaping to a new world that is not my usual world. Some will ask why. Others will silently wonder. And it is up to me to go for it, no matter that chatter, and believe in myself that I can accomplish this new direction with personal and professional success. I live everyday in uncomfort as I close my old business and start a new. But I have clarity that this is my legacy.

      Thank you for asking that question. It was good to write it down. 🙂

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