Affirmation Formula

Four Step Affirmation Formula

Creating Personal Affirmations

Affirmations have been used for centuries to affirm something that is true. They are short and powerful statements that when you say, hear or even think them can create a great transformation in your thinking process. Research has shown that we have on average 70,000 thoughts per day. (1) That’s approximately 3000 thoughts an hour. Affirmations are used to break negative thinking and promote positive outcomes in your life. The goal is to change your thought on a subject, thereby changing the actions you may take on a decision be it small or large. You may even ask yourself how something you are about to do invites this affirmation in more or less into your life.

Until recently, I looked up other people’s affirmations and used their affirmations to repeat with my mala beads. When you are first working with affirmations this is a great place to start. But as you become more familiar with the technique you may want to create your own. Having personal affirmations is a powerful step in changing the way you think about anything. To continue my self development, I created a four step formula for personalizing affirmations for the needs of the moment.

For instance, we all live busy lives. Maintaining balance in our lives is an important goal for keeping our sanity. Therefore, my four step formula would look like this if you are looking to create more balance in your life.

  • I am balanced.
  • I live a balanced life.
  • I create balance.
  • I am balance.

The four step formula has four distinct sections. The first line or section is about the feeling. I am balanced. It is all about the emotional state or the reaction of the belief that you are balanced. The second line or section is about your expression of that feeling or idea. I live a balanced life. Your mind determines what is defined by the term balance. What does balance look like? How does a balanced person react to life and situations? The third line or section is about the action of the feeling or idea. I create balance. This is a very powerful statement. Here you are actively seeking out ways to live a life of balance. The last line or section is you knowing without a doubt that you are balanced. I am balance. It is always stated in present tense. Here you know that you know. You are clear that all actions you take will promote a balanced life.

This formula works for any affirmation you’re looking for in the moment. Lets go through another example.

Say you are looking to create more abundance in your life. The word abundance is a good start but lets dig a little deeper. What kind of abundance are you looking for? Wealth, Happiness, Spiritual Abundance, Time Abundance, etc… Make sure to always be very clear and descriptive to the best of your ability in what you are looking to create in your life. For this example, we are going to decide that you want more abundance of laughter in your life. You want to laugh more. Well, what does laughing do for you? It makes you smile, it creates joy and happiness. It is a byproduct of seeing the world as fun and exciting. If you want to create more laughter then you will want to create more experiences that promote laughter or that amuse you. To laugh your thought must include the idea that the current moment is joyous, funny and exciting. After this thorough drill down, I believe we should use the word joy. Joy is a value that has the potential to create more laughter or an abundance of laughter in your life. The more joy you bring into your life, the more you can view life as entertaining.

In thinking about the formula, we want to feel joy, live joy, create joy and be joy. So the affirmation formula is as follows:

  • I am joyous.
  • I live a joyous life.
  • I create joy.
  • I am joy.

It is as simple as that. The first step is always the feeling. What does it feel like to be joyous? You can even do a short visualization technique here to really get into that feeling. To visualize, just close your eyes and take three big long breaths. And then remember a time when you felt joy or saw it in a movie. Really get into that moment. Be that moment. Where are you at? What are you doing? How do you feel? What is the expression on your face? Who’s with you? What time is it? Remember to really think about all the small details.

The next step is defining what it looks like. How a joyous person expresses that feeling? It is the outside expression. You may smile, laugh or sit with your eyes closed looking up to the sky feeling the warmth of the sun on your skin causing a slight laugh to come out as you think about the beauty of the earth and how blessed you are in this very moment. How does a joyous person move, walk or talk? What kind of thoughts does a joyous person experience daily, moment to moment?

The third step is actively seeking out activities that would promote that feeling in your life. It is continuously creating moments of joy. If you gain joy every time you play with your children, then set aside time each day for playtime. Or if you create joy by playing an instrument, then set aside time daily to play a song or two or three. Seek out those moments that allow you to always express and feel joy.

The fourth step is knowing that all life is joy. That no matter what you are doing or who you are with you are simply a joyous person. Joy is all around you and all you have to do is open your mind’s eye to see the expression of joy. All moments have joy if you just change your perspective to open your awareness to joy.

This is my four step affirmation formula. You feel it. You live it. You create it. You know it.



11 replies
  1. Elleyess
    Elleyess says:

    Wow, Connie — thank you for sharing. I SO need this in my life. As things get more hectic and complicated, it’s almost inevitable to feel completely swamped with responsibilities, deadlines, pressures… and when balancing it all falls a little short, these affirmations become more and more important. I will take the time out to practice and embrace this method you’ve shared. Thanks again!

    • Connie Benedict
      Connie Benedict says:

      I am happy that you enjoyed the article and can see how to integrate it into your life. We all do get quite busy. Taking the time out to practice and spend quiet time to ourselves is a great solution for recharging and coming back with a clear and balanced disposition.

  2. Jesicka Labud
    Jesicka Labud says:

    Hey Connie. As an avid affirmation- practitioner, I LOVE THIS POST! I love how you break it down into steps. I’ve done this for years now, but not all methods work well and sometimes I drop off and stop doing some affirmations regularly. I think this four step process really shows how it is not just about reading a sentence every day but transforming your life around the phases of the affirmation, until you become the embodiment of it, and therefore you no longer need to “repeat a sentence” but instead your whole being automatically repeats it for you- and your brain pathways have already shifted. I am seriously going to try this out with some of my key affirmations. Thank you!!!

    • Connie Benedict
      Connie Benedict says:

      Thank you. I am so happy that you enjoyed the post and will be incorporating the technique into your current practice. It impressed me how you so clued into the content and interpreted it with your perspective. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

  3. CherylAnn
    CherylAnn says:

    This is great! I need to use affirmations more. Honestly, while I do use them, I have been skeptical about how they really make a difference. But now I better understand how it works. 70,000 thoughts a day? It MUST do some good to replace just a few of those thoughts with mindful, purposeful ones. I’m going to do this practice with the word “peace.” Thank you!

  4. Debra Rock-Evans
    Debra Rock-Evans says:

    Great post. A nice simple formula to remember too. I think the key is as you mention at the end, to take time to ‘feel’ what you are affirming. What it feels like to be joyous. What it feels like to live a joyous life. What it feels like to create joy. What it feels like to know you are joy. Without feeling our words the words alone don’t make an impact on the subconscious in the same way that they do when you truly believe them because you feel them. That’s when the true power of affirmations take effect in our lives.

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