Redefining Abundance On Your Own Terms

I wish to secretly or not so secretly redefine abundance.

I believe abundance is the freedom to experience life on your terms and your desires. I believe that you can do anything you want as long as it doesn’t break the two golden rules which simply are do not harm and do not judge another living being on their quest to do the same.

Abundance defined in this way accepts all lived lives; the adventurers who are perpetual travelers, the stay at home moms who wish nothing more than to raise the next generation, the hard working person who loves a day job so they can support a hobby or live a simple life in their hometown and the grandma who decided to take up singing and join a over 60’s Rock band at 61.

Abundance is simply what you want more of. At MoClar Moments we take the time to listen and assist you in defining what authentic abundance means for you. It is so important to get very clear on what a life of authentic abundance looks like for you.

  • What is your personal happy scale?
  • What dreams make you giddy like a child? And Why?
  • What are the steps to live your life authentically?
  • If you had unlimited opportunities and you couldn’t fail what would you do today?

Daydreaming is one of the biggest tools you can use to know who you really are. I day dream of travel. I day dream of love. I day dream to be able to one day own a quaint little home and sit in my beautifully landscaped backyard drinking my favorite Yogi green tea with the morning sun and looking out to a breath-taking vista. I day dream of a garden where I grow at least 30% of my food. I daydream to be a earth disciple and do what it takes to awaken people to another way of thinking, another way of life that will be a win win for Mother Earth and the human race and all the living beings on this living planet. I daydream of the freedom to experience life in all its glory. This is my authentic abundance. Not a million dollar house or a fancy BMW. This isn’t me dreaming small. This is me dreaming my authentic life in my own authentic way.

I hear so many people who come to me thinking having the big house and the fancy car and the demanding social life is what abundance looks like. As I work with my clients to define their true abundance scale, I usually find that they are truly happy with taking one extra week on vacation instead of traveling the world for a year. Others I have found want little material objects so they can be free to be spontaneous in where they live. They don’t fit the average stereotypical story for what abundance is sold as. If dreaming of a million dollar home is your authentic dream, then I support you 100%. But don’t dream someone else’s dream. Dream your life.

A good sign that you are dreaming someone else’s dream is you feel that abundance is out of reach. That is when stepping back and really defining authentic abundance on your terms is important if not necessary. The fastest way I have found to get detailed is either meditating and then journaling for a few weeks to a couple of months or working with a life coach who can ask those inquisitive questions to get your right brain thinking and creating the life of your dreams.

Take time to define what you really want and be very truthful with yourself.

What is your truest beliefs and values for your dreams?

MoClar Moment’s goal is to assist you on that path of defining your passionate and authentic life and creating the mindset, speech and powerful inspired action plans to get you from point A to Point U!!

Your task this week…

To sit down and daydream for 15 to 20 minutes.

Then write me a comment and tell me, what is your authentic meaning to abundance in your life?

Four Step Affirmation Formula

Creating Personal Affirmations

Affirmations have been used for centuries to affirm something that is true. They are short and powerful statements that when you say, hear or even think them can create a great transformation in your thinking process. Research has shown that we have on average 70,000 thoughts per day. (1) That’s approximately 3000 thoughts an hour. Affirmations are used to break negative thinking and promote positive outcomes in your life. The goal is to change your thought on a subject, thereby changing the actions you may take on a decision be it small or large. You may even ask yourself how something you are about to do invites this affirmation in more or less into your life.

Until recently, I looked up other people’s affirmations and used their affirmations to repeat with my mala beads. When you are first working with affirmations this is a great place to start. But as you become more familiar with the technique you may want to create your own. Having personal affirmations is a powerful step in changing the way you think about anything. To continue my self development, I created a four step formula for personalizing affirmations for the needs of the moment.

For instance, we all live busy lives. Maintaining balance in our lives is an important goal for keeping our sanity. Therefore, my four step formula would look like this if you are looking to create more balance in your life.

  • I am balanced.
  • I live a balanced life.
  • I create balance.
  • I am balance.

The four step formula has four distinct sections. The first line or section is about the feeling. I am balanced. It is all about the emotional state or the reaction of the belief that you are balanced. The second line or section is about your expression of that feeling or idea. I live a balanced life. Your mind determines what is defined by the term balance. What does balance look like? How does a balanced person react to life and situations? The third line or section is about the action of the feeling or idea. I create balance. This is a very powerful statement. Here you are actively seeking out ways to live a life of balance. The last line or section is you knowing without a doubt that you are balanced. I am balance. It is always stated in present tense. Here you know that you know. You are clear that all actions you take will promote a balanced life.

This formula works for any affirmation you’re looking for in the moment. Lets go through another example.

Say you are looking to create more abundance in your life. The word abundance is a good start but lets dig a little deeper. What kind of abundance are you looking for? Wealth, Happiness, Spiritual Abundance, Time Abundance, etc… Make sure to always be very clear and descriptive to the best of your ability in what you are looking to create in your life. For this example, we are going to decide that you want more abundance of laughter in your life. You want to laugh more. Well, what does laughing do for you? It makes you smile, it creates joy and happiness. It is a byproduct of seeing the world as fun and exciting. If you want to create more laughter then you will want to create more experiences that promote laughter or that amuse you. To laugh your thought must include the idea that the current moment is joyous, funny and exciting. After this thorough drill down, I believe we should use the word joy. Joy is a value that has the potential to create more laughter or an abundance of laughter in your life. The more joy you bring into your life, the more you can view life as entertaining.

In thinking about the formula, we want to feel joy, live joy, create joy and be joy. So the affirmation formula is as follows:

  • I am joyous.
  • I live a joyous life.
  • I create joy.
  • I am joy.

It is as simple as that. The first step is always the feeling. What does it feel like to be joyous? You can even do a short visualization technique here to really get into that feeling. To visualize, just close your eyes and take three big long breaths. And then remember a time when you felt joy or saw it in a movie. Really get into that moment. Be that moment. Where are you at? What are you doing? How do you feel? What is the expression on your face? Who’s with you? What time is it? Remember to really think about all the small details.

The next step is defining what it looks like. How a joyous person expresses that feeling? It is the outside expression. You may smile, laugh or sit with your eyes closed looking up to the sky feeling the warmth of the sun on your skin causing a slight laugh to come out as you think about the beauty of the earth and how blessed you are in this very moment. How does a joyous person move, walk or talk? What kind of thoughts does a joyous person experience daily, moment to moment?

The third step is actively seeking out activities that would promote that feeling in your life. It is continuously creating moments of joy. If you gain joy every time you play with your children, then set aside time each day for playtime. Or if you create joy by playing an instrument, then set aside time daily to play a song or two or three. Seek out those moments that allow you to always express and feel joy.

The fourth step is knowing that all life is joy. That no matter what you are doing or who you are with you are simply a joyous person. Joy is all around you and all you have to do is open your mind’s eye to see the expression of joy. All moments have joy if you just change your perspective to open your awareness to joy.

This is my four step affirmation formula. You feel it. You live it. You create it. You know it.

 

(1) http://www.loni.ucla.edu/About_Loni/education/brain_trivia.shtml

Steps to Solving Reasonless Depression

I have come to a place in my life where on a normal day to day living, I successfully stay in a positive mindset and see the world through a happy lens. Yes, I am excitable but very little seems to stick with me longer then a hour or two or maybe (but rarely) a day or two, depending on the level of the labeled experience.

Yet, there are times where a reasonless depression takes over. This weekend was one of those times. I was depressed. For really no reason. I had food. I had clothes. I had a roof over my head. Gas in my car. There was no reason.

A client of mine just a week before was feeling a lot of anxiety. I had suggested something I had heard from several spiritual leaders that to fully remove an unwanted or undesirable feeling, you first must fully feel it.

“Okay. Let’s practice what we preach”, I thought.

I woke up on Monday morning and sat up with this heavy feeling on my shoulders. I first observed my body language. The sides of my lips curled down. My head hung low. My eyes, heavy and gazing at the ground. My muscles ached. A slight headache was at the edge of my forehead. I felt lethargic, lonely and unmotivated.

I grabbed my journal and wrote thoughts down that came from this overall feeling of nothingness. The thoughts were about me not being good enough. Failing like usual. Why am I even trying. More kept coming and I just kept writing them down as I heard them. Then I went over possible reasons for why my emotional body needed to feel this way. I wrote down about 6 and that is really when things started to move forward for me. They ranged from money to weight to a lost friendship to high expectations. I realized, I could have probably kept going but then I stopped. Depression was knocking on the door. It just wants to be heard and felt and loved. It wants a hug and understanding; compassion and a friend.

At this time, I decided to perform a visualization technique. I visualized opening the door, welcoming depression with open arms and giving him a big spiritual loving hug. We sat down at the wooden table and had tea. I listened, nodded and was really present in the moment for depression. I gave him compassion, love and understanding. I let the thoughts in my head escape onto the paper and then checked in. Asked if it needed to tell me more.

And there was more…

There was a gift. Depression said that he was worried about me. I work so hard with no breaks and really he was hear to check up on me. We both smiled and it was then that I realized the gift in full. Depression visits me when I need a break. When I need to slow down and sleep. Take time for reading and relaxing with my furchildren. To simply enjoy the sun and the outside. I looked at depression deep into his eyes and said, “Thank you. Thank you for being there for me. Thank you for slowing me down to rest. Thank you for your precious gift. For you arrived exactly on time. Exactly when I needed you.” And deep down inside, depression knew that. Then we enjoyed another big spiritual loving hug and I looked him square in the face one more time and said, “I LOVE YOU!”

At that moment, a smile came to my lips. My body no longer ached. My heart skipped a beat. Joy spread over me like a flowing river. My energy increased and I knew I was ready for the day no matter what may come. Depression looked right back at me and said, “Be Brave. Be Fearless. When you need me, I will be there again.”

All emotions have wonderful gifts to teach. May we be brave enough to listen, be open and accepting and ready for their precious gifts.

This taught me that for all feelings, we should observe them fully in our bodies, both emotional and physical. My Mo•Clar Moment was that my depression was simply a gift to slow me down and send me the much needed message of rest.

In Summary the Steps to Solve a Reasonless Depression are as follows:
  1. Fully feel it.
  2. Observe it physically.
  3. Record all these observations in a journal.
  4. Write the thoughts as they arrive to your conscious mind.
  5. Visualize an unattached conversation with the feeling. Be very detailed and imaginative.
  6. Listen closely for the gifts.
  7. Send lots of love, understanding and compassion.
  8. Be your own friend.
  9. Be thankful for that moment.
  10. Write down the overall meaning and then bless it.

Visualization Technique to Nice, France

As promised, I completed my visualization technique yesterday to Nice, France. I spent about 45 minutes really visualizing it and looking up pictures and feeling what it was like to sit in the cafes, stay at the hotels, and walk on the cobblestone streets. I began my visualization with going to the San Diego Airport and standing in line at security feeling those exciting feeling for going to France for a day. I knew that in my pack, I had an extra pair of clothes, a tooth brush and toothpaste, my hair brush, a book to read and my journal to write in. I checked my pockets to make sure I had my camera so I could take lots of pictures. Next I saw in my mind’s eye me sitting waiting to board. Then walking over to Starbucks for some hot water to put in my coffee cup for my favorite Yogi Green Tea that I always bring with me everywhere I go.

Now I am on the plane, watching a romantic movie on the seat in front of me. I love when you can choose your movies or watch TV on those little screens right in front of you. Really makes the plane ride so much faster. Arial Nice FranceBefore I knew it was I departing from the plane and I had arrived in Nice, France. Secret…the best part about taking a trip in your mind’s eye is that you get a non-stop flight to your destination. 😉

Ah! The first blast of warm air as I step out of the airport. Now since this is my luxury trip, a limo is waiting to take me to my hotel. How exciting to ride in a comfortable limo with infused cucumber and lemon water waiting for me inside. We drive through the city streets slow so I can see this beautiful place they call Nice, France. Me…joyous and happy and smiling from ear to ear.

We arrive at Hotel La Perouse. I will be staying for only a day but it is so beautiful and refreshing. I have a deck so I can enjoy the sun and breeze as I read my favorite book or work on my musing for my blog. By lunch I am hungry and feeling that tug to go and explore the surroundings. I first visit the flower market on Cours Selaya and do a little shopping. Take pictures at the Russian Orthodox Cathedral and the Fountain Plaza Massena. I stop to hear jazz in the plaza and tip the gentleman for the nice music he played on his saxophone. What a beautiful day with the temperature an even 74 degrees, slightly cloudy, mostly sunny. Where I stop to eat, simply must have the best french cheese and sun dried tomatoes. After lunch, I walk along the Promenade des Anglais, visit the art galleries, and see more of the beautiful churches. I spend time at the hidden gem of Nice, Parc Phoenix, a haven of wildlife, gardens and fountains.

By this time it is time to rest and finish the day at a romantic cafe on the main street where action is all around and conversations are animated. As I finally make my way back to Hotel La Perouse, I am tired but filled with joy and happiness. I am now ready to move forward with my work knowing that my day in Nice, France was exactly what I needed to renew and refresh.

Feeling Stuck? Do what you want to do today!

Today’s Challenge

Often in a coaching session, my clients will experience a feeling of being stuck either in a job, a relationship, the daily chaos of life, limited by money, you name it, something is prohibiting them from doing what they really want. It is also prohibiting them from creating the action plan to get them where they want to go or be in life.

Whatever is holding you back today from doing what you really want to do. Try this exercise.

I developed this exercise on the spur of the moment for one of my clients. They were feeling frustrated and stuck in life. It was that magical mo•clar moment when I had this idea for this client that may help them get unstuck.

I encouraged her to complete this exercise.

I asked her, “What do you want to do today?”

Client, “Go to Paris.”

Me, “Great! Then go.”

Client, “What?!?”

Me, “Go to paris.”

Client, “How?”

Me, “In your mind’s eye.”

Take an hour today or maybe even two.
Get on the internet, find some pictures of Paris and put them all around you.
Close your eyes and imagine the plane ride.
Getting to the airport.
The smell as soon as you get out in the open air.
The taxi ride to your hotel.
Greeting the bell boy or girl and talking to the desk front manager. Asking them what is the first thing you should do in Paris for your first visit.
Then whatever it is you want them to say, go do it.
If it is walk, imagine preparing your pack for the walk.
Taking that first step onto the sidewalk.
Seeing the sites, the buildings, the people.
Of course, smiling the whole time because you are in Paris.
Imagine the first bite of food you eat there. What was the meal? I am sure it tasted great!
And just take your time with this seeing yourself there. Post some pictures of your day in Paris to Facebook, Twitter or Pinterest.

Tomorrow, you may decide you are going on a safari in Kenya. Do the same thing.

So many people are stuck because they can’t see anything else besides what is bothering them; what they don’t like. They see what they really want to do as impossible and sometimes even unimaginable.

This exercise is to open up your imagination.

As Albert Einstein said,

“Imagination is everything. It is the preview of life’s coming attractions.”

If you feel your are not limited by anything to do what you want, you will be able to clear your mind to see the opportunities that are all around you. Having a clear mind is exactly what we are looking for in this exercise.

Do this exercise every day for 21 days. See where it takes you. I bet you will be surprised.

And remember, if you don’t have one or two hours, just do it for 20 minutes. You can even exercise and do this technique. Pretend you are running in the hills of Switzerland, even if your actual feet are on the land of America.

Use your imagination. You won’t be disappointed. 🙂