Four Step Affirmation Formula

Creating Personal Affirmations

Affirmations have been used for centuries to affirm something that is true. They are short and powerful statements that when you say, hear or even think them can create a great transformation in your thinking process. Research has shown that we have on average 70,000 thoughts per day. (1) That’s approximately 3000 thoughts an hour. Affirmations are used to break negative thinking and promote positive outcomes in your life. The goal is to change your thought on a subject, thereby changing the actions you may take on a decision be it small or large. You may even ask yourself how something you are about to do invites this affirmation in more or less into your life.

Until recently, I looked up other people’s affirmations and used their affirmations to repeat with my mala beads. When you are first working with affirmations this is a great place to start. But as you become more familiar with the technique you may want to create your own. Having personal affirmations is a powerful step in changing the way you think about anything. To continue my self development, I created a four step formula for personalizing affirmations for the needs of the moment.

For instance, we all live busy lives. Maintaining balance in our lives is an important goal for keeping our sanity. Therefore, my four step formula would look like this if you are looking to create more balance in your life.

  • I am balanced.
  • I live a balanced life.
  • I create balance.
  • I am balance.

The four step formula has four distinct sections. The first line or section is about the feeling. I am balanced. It is all about the emotional state or the reaction of the belief that you are balanced. The second line or section is about your expression of that feeling or idea. I live a balanced life. Your mind determines what is defined by the term balance. What does balance look like? How does a balanced person react to life and situations? The third line or section is about the action of the feeling or idea. I create balance. This is a very powerful statement. Here you are actively seeking out ways to live a life of balance. The last line or section is you knowing without a doubt that you are balanced. I am balance. It is always stated in present tense. Here you know that you know. You are clear that all actions you take will promote a balanced life.

This formula works for any affirmation you’re looking for in the moment. Lets go through another example.

Say you are looking to create more abundance in your life. The word abundance is a good start but lets dig a little deeper. What kind of abundance are you looking for? Wealth, Happiness, Spiritual Abundance, Time Abundance, etc… Make sure to always be very clear and descriptive to the best of your ability in what you are looking to create in your life. For this example, we are going to decide that you want more abundance of laughter in your life. You want to laugh more. Well, what does laughing do for you? It makes you smile, it creates joy and happiness. It is a byproduct of seeing the world as fun and exciting. If you want to create more laughter then you will want to create more experiences that promote laughter or that amuse you. To laugh your thought must include the idea that the current moment is joyous, funny and exciting. After this thorough drill down, I believe we should use the word joy. Joy is a value that has the potential to create more laughter or an abundance of laughter in your life. The more joy you bring into your life, the more you can view life as entertaining.

In thinking about the formula, we want to feel joy, live joy, create joy and be joy. So the affirmation formula is as follows:

  • I am joyous.
  • I live a joyous life.
  • I create joy.
  • I am joy.

It is as simple as that. The first step is always the feeling. What does it feel like to be joyous? You can even do a short visualization technique here to really get into that feeling. To visualize, just close your eyes and take three big long breaths. And then remember a time when you felt joy or saw it in a movie. Really get into that moment. Be that moment. Where are you at? What are you doing? How do you feel? What is the expression on your face? Who’s with you? What time is it? Remember to really think about all the small details.

The next step is defining what it looks like. How a joyous person expresses that feeling? It is the outside expression. You may smile, laugh or sit with your eyes closed looking up to the sky feeling the warmth of the sun on your skin causing a slight laugh to come out as you think about the beauty of the earth and how blessed you are in this very moment. How does a joyous person move, walk or talk? What kind of thoughts does a joyous person experience daily, moment to moment?

The third step is actively seeking out activities that would promote that feeling in your life. It is continuously creating moments of joy. If you gain joy every time you play with your children, then set aside time each day for playtime. Or if you create joy by playing an instrument, then set aside time daily to play a song or two or three. Seek out those moments that allow you to always express and feel joy.

The fourth step is knowing that all life is joy. That no matter what you are doing or who you are with you are simply a joyous person. Joy is all around you and all you have to do is open your mind’s eye to see the expression of joy. All moments have joy if you just change your perspective to open your awareness to joy.

This is my four step affirmation formula. You feel it. You live it. You create it. You know it.



5 Steps to Solve a Problem

A Nightly Ritual to Release the Day’s Worries

At night just before I go to bed I have this ritual that allows me to release the day’s thoughts before settling in to a deep sleep. On my nightstand, there are several books that I turn to for inspiration, thoughtful awareness or simply to create a smile.

On this one particular day, a day that most would label as hard or trying. The kind with an over abundance of work, news that wasn’t ideal and generally some not requested stress. At times like this, I turn to a book called “Celebrating Love” by Sri Sri Ravi Shankar. It is a book that holds discourses that he has given over many years. I randomly, with my eyes closed, flip through the pages and stop at a certain page based on my intuition for that moment. On this day, I stopped at page 21. Overall topic Problems.

Sri Sri Ravi Shankar writes about the five steps to solve a problem:

1. Admit it exists.
How many of us know there is something a miss but we brush it under the rug or push it deep down inside? Admitting there is something there actually begins the process of healing or dissolving it.

2. See it as a small problem and do not see it as big.
This is one, even I can be guilty of at times. Looking at a situation square in the face and calling it big. The minute the title “BIG” comes out of your mouth now it seems as if it is impossible. We at Mo•Clar always believe that everything is possible. So simply change the perspective by changing the word. Call it small. This simple little trick will bring it down to a very manageable task to solve or later you will actually see to not solve, at least not immediately. The task now seems possible and with this your brain or intuition will naturally take over to create clarity around the situation.

3. If it concerns people, keep in touch with them instead of avoiding them.
Ah, Communication. So simple in idea. It seems a little harder to implement. Yet, when you consider something a small thing, no big deal, it exists, so why hide anything. As humans, it is better to be forthright with humility and compassion then to hide. Ask yourself, what are you hiding? If you were the other person, would you want to know? What is the benefit of you keeping it to yourself?

4. Talk less and give time a chance.
The human condition. We are talkers. We tell people everything, well most of us. At times, instead of giving the “problem” energy, give your blessings more energy. Actually, when you have what you call a problem existing is the time when you really need to express deeply what you are grateful for. I wear a bracelet on my left wrist that says “blessings”. It reminds me to speak more about my blessings then giving energy to other things that do not serve me. This allows me to focus and gives rise to faith. When we live from a place of complete unwavering faith, you will be surprised how little problems can really be.

5. Get together and celebrate.
“When you celebrate and put the problem on the back burner, you will see that the problem gets solved over time.” – Sri Sri Ravi Shankar

This one is my favorite. It really sets into place the notion of the mindset. If you are seeing problems then you are not seeing opportunities. Every so called problem is by definition a growing opportunity. If you can celebrate the moment and not label it, this twist allows your creative mind to take over and flourish with intuitive ideas to grow from this wonderful opportunity.

When I read this discourse, I realized that solving a situation isn’t really about solving it at all. It is about setting an intention of what you want to learn and what you want to accomplish. If you come at the angle of accomplishment or end result and really define the intention (not the expectation), then the so called “problem” will resolve itself through the action steps of the intention.

As your perspective changes, have deep gratitude for the current experience without judgement. Soon you will notice that your mind opens up with awareness and opportunities will abound. Have faith. The universe is always on your side.