Can Pet Urine Make You a Better Person

A story is only a good story if it has challenges and triumphs from those challenges. At least that is what the movies tell us. 😉

Here’s Mine.

Recently, I decided to move from California to Colorado. I think I just needed a change of pace; a change of scenery. Maybe, it was that I needed to be inspired again and sometimes a move does this for you.

When I arrived in Colorado, I asked the universe for two things. I was ready for a relationship and to begin dating again. I was also ready to finally purchase a home and become a home owner.

I looked to the sky and told the energies that I was very grateful for all they have done for me. I am very blessed and live a blessed life. I let them know that my request that will follow is simply a desire that if granted would bring me even more uplifting energy. Then I closed my eyes, felt love in my heart and said out loud…

I really want a home to call my own.

Just weeks later I found a cute little house, perfect for me. It has a sunroom that I will turn into a meditation / atrium room. It has three bedrooms and three baths, with space for guests. It has this wonderful old Colorado mountainesque character; real wood throughout the whole house.

As soon as I stepped inside, I felt an ease. I felt at home. I thought this is it. It needed some love as it was built in 1984 and needed to be updated but I thought I was the perfect person to give it the love it needed.

So, I bought the house.

As previous and current home owners may know, you only get to see the home two or three times before purchasing the home. The night I received the keys, I stretched out on the floor of the living room, filled with the satisfaction of being a proud new homeowner.

That’s when I caught a whiff of something.

Something sour.

I began to sniff.

Rolled over. Got on my hands and knees. Put my face into the carpet.

Ah, There’s no mistaking the smell of cat pee.

How the 7 Levels of Energy helped me see the light

So here I am in my living room, realizing that I might have to not only paint and fix some out of date issues but now, rip up my carpet.

Ever hear about the 5 stages of grief? Well, I work with this other thing called the 7 levels of energy.

Here’s what happened next.

Level 1: Victim

I quickly recognized that I was feeling a lot of level one in this moment. The level one energy is a victim energy. Like, “Woe is me” or the Murphy’s Law Syndrome, “These things always happen to me.”

I knew I didn’t want to be a victim. I know I am always in charge of my life. I didn’t have to purchase this home. I chose to. So, I made a conscious effort to move to level two and get angry at the previous owner for not disclosing how bad this situation was.

Level 2: Anger

Many people think that anger is a very negative feeling or emotion. But anger can also be this great catalyst to motivate yourself into action. And I wanted to get motivated to solve the challenge. Yet, I didn’t move quite as fast as I had hoped. I went from level two, anger to level three, coping.

Level 3: Rationalizing / Coping

When I told the story to my family I would say things like,  “Well, I have pets. At least these pets had a good home. Maybe the previous owners lived with the smell so long that they didn’t even notice.” Level three is a lot of this making excuses or rationalizing for other people. I got stuck in this level for about three days.

Level 4: Martyrdom

I never did hit level four. Level four is a level I, affectionately, call The Mother Theresa. It is the level that you give yourself and your time to others. You think of them before you think of yourself. I bypassed this level all together. But if I would have hit it, it might have looked like this…

“Well, I am glad the other owners didn’t have to take care of this. It would have been just too much money and time for them to deal with. They would have had to stay in the hotel longer and our close date might have been pushed back causing them not to move to Florida sooner.”

See how that thought pattern above really thinks of other people, instead of thinking of yourself. Many people think this is an honorable level and I can agree that we need more Mother Theresa’s in the world. Yet, this is a very draining level to sit at if you always forget about you.

Level 5: Win-win

Level five is a level that wants both sides to win. For me a level five would have tried to find the positive out of this experience for both me and the previous owners. Again, I kind of skipped this level. If we take a moment now, I would say the win for me is that I know I am hiring a good carpet cleaner and I know for sure that the carpets are getting cleaned to my satisfaction. For the previous owner, their win is they didn’t have to spend money and time doing this.

Level 6: Joy

Level six, is one of my favorite levels. The person who sits at a level six energy finds joy in everything. There is no win or lose, there simply is joyful experience. The level six would have been interested in how to clean the urine. What chemicals are used? Do they have to be toxic? Can they be organic? Whom should I call? They would find joy from finding it to solving it to enjoying the whole process. This is where I arrived for a short time.

I learned a lot about cat and dog urine. I learned how to use a black light. I learned what a fresh spot looks like and what an old spot looks like. I was educated on what to do when I purchase a home again. I could say that this whole experience in some weird way may have been enjoyable on an educational level. 🙂 Yet, I didn’t sit in this level too long either.

Level 7: Observer

Instead I just kind of moved up to the last level, level seven. Level seven is simply being an observer of the experience. There is no joy, no anger, no excitement, no sadness, no depression, there is no true emotion that we feel. Level seven can be very Spock like. So if you think to yourself, how would Spock look at this challenge, then you are more than likely coming from a level seven.

I am always reminded of that saying from that movie 7 years in Tibet:

“If a problem can be solved there is no use worrying about it. If it can’t be solved, worrying will do no good.”

To me, this saying is a level seven. It simply means that there is no need to stress or worry about a thing. Either solve it or don’t. Either way is fine. You will always move forward. You will always get to the other side. Just observe. Be curious. Watch how life unfolds.

At the end of the day, this is where I ended. I can easily fix this new challenge. I can easily know that all will be taken care of. Was it ideal? Well, you be the judge.

If you are looking at it from a high level, then ideal does not exist but at the same time it exists everywhere! 🙂

Daily Exercise

For today’s exercise, just take time to really embody that saying from 7 Years in Tibet.

If you are having a challenge, ask yourself, can it be solved? If yes, then take the time to learn how to solve it with a mindset that it is already solved and you are simply finding the solution that is already there.

And if it cannot be solved, then take time to accept what is in front you and know that the universe never gives you anything that you cannot handle.

About the 7 Levels of Energy

The 7 levels of Energy is an energy leadership system developed by a man named Bruce Schneider. Each energy has a very distinct character to it.

I offer the Energy Leadership Index Assessment as an individual service and it can really help you move through life with less struggles just by having the ability to see the different perspectives in a situation and the energy level you are presenting to the current perceived struggle or challenge.

If you are interested, schedule a dream session with me and we can go over what this knowledge can help you release in your life.

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If you feel drawn to share your story, I am always blessed to receive it. Namaste.

What did Walter Mitty Teach Me

The Secret Life of Walter Mitty

On Sunday afternoon as I was sitting preparing for 2014, I decided I wanted to take a break and get out of the house. I grabbed my hat and coat, and out the door I went. I walked up to the local mall and decided seeing a movie and getting out of my head for a little while would do me some good.

As I looked over the possible choices, one movie kept jumping out at me… The Secret Life of Walter Mitty. I do love adventure movies.

I thought the Secret Life of Walter Mitty was a brilliant representation of a person who wants and craves more from life. They have played it safe and secure behind a desk and a so-called career. When love is at stake, Walter reaches beyond his limits and let’s go of fear. What lies ahead is a magnificent tale of adventure, courage and facing challenges once thought to be greater than he. At the end, you see a renewed man who knows without doubt that he can now face any experience that flows to him.

The movie itself has beautiful scenery of Iceland, Greenland and the Himalayas. Ben Stiller does a great job of balancing comedy with soul searching yet quiet drama. I walked away from that theatre with my own renewed intention to continue having as many adventures as I can in this life. It was encouraging and reaffirming.

That was exactly what I needed. As I was walking home, I set my intentions for 2014.


What did Walter Mitty teach me?

  1. To live a life of adventure
  2. To look fear right in the eye and keep moving forward
  3. To believe in Love
  4. To balance life’s lessons with laughter, grace and humility
  5. To be confident and courageous
  6. To use imagination (which is the key to manifestation) to seek what I desire
  7. To create solutions from challenges


If you watch this movie, you will see each of these intentions on several scenes of the movie. Walter didn’t let anything stop him from getting what he wanted. He pushed past fear. He drew courage through imagination and love.  He created solutions where other people may have given up.

He finally manifested a life of adventure even if it took 16  years of fantasy to make it happen. Ah, patience. He was a man of great patience. Beautiful.

Isn’t it great how the universe will put all the tools right in front of you exactly when you need them to move you forward. These seven intentions is exactly what I needed to see my world open up in 2014. I will look at these daily, morning and night. Read them with full feeling and infused love. My actions will be judged against these to know that what I want to create in 2014 will be adventurous, fearless and courageous, done with love, grace, laughter, confidence and humility, will contain creative solutions to any challenges I may face, and will come from my imagination or as I like to say infinite potentiality.

Happy New Year!!!


Death and A Moment of Clarity

How Losing Someone Creates Clarity

Today, I put together a tribute video for my dad’s late wife, Deborah. It is the second one this year. On December 17, 2012, the day of my birthday, my furson (aka dog) Zack, crossed over. On his birthday, May 7 of 2013, I made a tribute video for him to celebrate his life and say Happy Birthday one more time. Today, my dad was able to say Happy Anniversary to his wife one more time.

When you lose someone be it a person or a pet, it does something to you. Not only do you feel grief, loss, sadness but you start to review your life, where you are at? What you’re doing? And are you happy? My Zack gifted me with a miracle when he passed. He awakened me. He gave his life so that I could start mine. Isn’t that the ultimate sacrifice? His transition caused me to search further on my purpose of life. It created clarity in me that I wanted to do something bigger; something more meaningful. I wanted to spiritually move people…assist them on their journey. I wanted to help on a bigger scale.

Some people will be lost in their grief. They will mourn and forget to live. They will lose their clarity in life. Their attachment to that person or pet defined them, who they were, what they were about? But some of us, will rise. We will see that the relationship was the gift and that those lessons will continue forever. It is our free will that helps us decide to move forward when we lose someone. Those left behind in the physical world still have a purpose to fulfill. You are still here because you have not yet fulfilled your purpose.

Death can sometimes bring that moment of clarity when you know that you need to change something, improve something or it will confirm that you are on the right path. I have deep gratitude for my furson Zack and for his gift of life to awaken me. Because I live so deeply by my 7 core governing clarity principles, I do not regret what has happened. I see all experiences as helping me grow as a person and a soul.

For those that are still lost in grief, I always first recommend a good therapist. Then second, I recommend the following:

  1. Ask yourself, what was the gift of that relationship?
  2. How did that relationship help you to grow?
  3. What was the gift when they crossed over?
  4. What did you learn?
  5. What could you now see?
  6. What is the gift of sadness?
  7. Where do you want to go from here?
  8. How do you want to celebrate their life through your living?

I always tell my clients to look at it from their perspective. They wouldn’t want you to be sad. They wouldn’t want you to stop living. They would want to see you smile, enjoy life and laugh. So ask yourself to see the clarity that comes from this life journey. They are not gone. They just crossed over. They are still with you in spirit. And if you close your eyes in meditation long enough you might even be able to feel them next to you.

Benefits of Clarity

“Clarity of mind means clarity of passion, too; this is why a great and clear mind loves ardently and sees distinctly what it loves.” — Blaise Pascal

I have spent that last several months trying to figure out how I wanted to help the world. As soon as I heard about coaching, I knew my calling was there. I believe the reason so many people are called to this career is because there is an uprising of people who want to help the world move into a greater happiness for all. Not just themselves but help everyone see that life is not as difficult as people believe it to be.

We all have challenges, of course. But how we view those challenges is the difference between success and failure.

As I struggled to find my niche, I went back and forth between becoming a business coach, life coach, marketing coach or spiritual coach. In the end, I finally settled on becoming a life purpose coach. The reason I settle there was because I realized that was the root of where inner happiness began. If you know without a doubt what you are meant to do on this earth, nothing will stand in your way. You will never think about quitting. It would never even cross your mind. When you feel from your head to your toes, from skin to your bones, what your purpose and passion is in life, you know there is nothing else you want to do.

In that exact moment, I had a moment of clarity. I knew I was here to help people find their purpose, their passion, their infinite statement of why they are here. There are so many people who can help you market your business. But that is not why I am here. Yes, I understand marketing. Yes, I understand web design and graphic design and time management and hard work. But all of that to me is surface level dwellings. I wanted something real. Something powerful. Something life changing that when my clients were done working with me they had a vision, a mission and a plan to execute that they would never give up for anything. The word ‘No’ would not exist in their brain because without a doubt they knew who they were and why they were here.

So MoClar was born. It was born from my own moment of clarity. It was born from me listening to my inner voice, my inner guide, saying loudly, “YOU ARE HERE TO CREATE INNER SMILES! Your mission is that simple. Your vision is to bring forth all people who need to spend time listening to their inner voice, their inner guide and help them hear it loud and clear.” I have a gift to listen. I have a gift to read between the lines and to hear what is stopping people from creating their passion. That is why I here.

When you know your passion, your purpose for life you will no longer be wondering around in boring jobs or careers. You will not have to get two or three degrees unless your purpose is simply to learn all you can. You will have a clear and focused path in life. And that is what I want for all my clients. A clear and focused path.

To take this path, you must be brave. You must have confidence. You must know yourself, in and out. Your limits, your strengths, you weakness and most of all your motivation to keep going. I took four years to look within me. Four years of continuous self-reflection on a daily basis. Not just every other day, but every day. And I still do this practice daily. I call it my morning reflection.

This time in reflection gives me strength to keep moving forward. It creates motivation for my purpose. If I skip a day, I know it. I feel tired, exhausted and unmotivated to keep going. That is why, I do my best to always be there for myself first so that I can be there for all others that need me.

So now you ask, what is the benefit of a clear mind?

  1. A clear mind will help you move the fog away. You no longer have to guess or wonder what your next steps are.
  2. You can relax in the moments between because you have a plan. You see your vision.
  3. You can calmly and confidently create goals full of inspired actions that relate specifically to your mission in life.
  4. You know you will succeed because quitting is not an option.
  5. You will no longer feel lost or uninspired.
  6. Any feelings of misery, shame or frustration will be a thing of the past.
  7. You will learn to trust your inner compass.

These are only a few of the many benefits that clarity can bring to your life.

Get Involved

For today, I want you to do yourself favor. Take time to take this survey. This survey is a way for me to help you. I read each and every response, take time to research and create the programs that you need to move forward to your exciting life. Questions are the key to thinking with both your hemisphere’s. This survey may be your ticket to understanding what is blocking you. Take time to read, think and write the answers that resonate with you deeply.

Thank you.

If you feel drawn to share your story, I am always blessed to receive it. Namaste.