Can Pet Urine Make You a Better Person

A story is only a good story if it has challenges and triumphs from those challenges. At least that is what the movies tell us. 😉

Here’s Mine.

Recently, I decided to move from California to Colorado. I think I just needed a change of pace; a change of scenery. Maybe, it was that I needed to be inspired again and sometimes a move does this for you.

When I arrived in Colorado, I asked the universe for two things. I was ready for a relationship and to begin dating again. I was also ready to finally purchase a home and become a home owner.

I looked to the sky and told the energies that I was very grateful for all they have done for me. I am very blessed and live a blessed life. I let them know that my request that will follow is simply a desire that if granted would bring me even more uplifting energy. Then I closed my eyes, felt love in my heart and said out loud…

I really want a home to call my own.

Just weeks later I found a cute little house, perfect for me. It has a sunroom that I will turn into a meditation / atrium room. It has three bedrooms and three baths, with space for guests. It has this wonderful old Colorado mountainesque character; real wood throughout the whole house.

As soon as I stepped inside, I felt an ease. I felt at home. I thought this is it. It needed some love as it was built in 1984 and needed to be updated but I thought I was the perfect person to give it the love it needed.

So, I bought the house.

As previous and current home owners may know, you only get to see the home two or three times before purchasing the home. The night I received the keys, I stretched out on the floor of the living room, filled with the satisfaction of being a proud new homeowner.

That’s when I caught a whiff of something.

Something sour.

I began to sniff.

Rolled over. Got on my hands and knees. Put my face into the carpet.

Ah, There’s no mistaking the smell of cat pee.


How the 7 Levels of Energy helped me see the light

So here I am in my living room, realizing that I might have to not only paint and fix some out of date issues but now, rip up my carpet.

Ever hear about the 5 stages of grief? Well, I work with this other thing called the 7 levels of energy.

Here’s what happened next.

Level 1: Victim

I quickly recognized that I was feeling a lot of level one in this moment. The level one energy is a victim energy. Like, “Woe is me” or the Murphy’s Law Syndrome, “These things always happen to me.”

I knew I didn’t want to be a victim. I know I am always in charge of my life. I didn’t have to purchase this home. I chose to. So, I made a conscious effort to move to level two and get angry at the previous owner for not disclosing how bad this situation was.

Level 2: Anger

Many people think that anger is a very negative feeling or emotion. But anger can also be this great catalyst to motivate yourself into action. And I wanted to get motivated to solve the challenge. Yet, I didn’t move quite as fast as I had hoped. I went from level two, anger to level three, coping.

Level 3: Rationalizing / Coping

When I told the story to my family I would say things like,  “Well, I have pets. At least these pets had a good home. Maybe the previous owners lived with the smell so long that they didn’t even notice.” Level three is a lot of this making excuses or rationalizing for other people. I got stuck in this level for about three days.

Level 4: Martyrdom

I never did hit level four. Level four is a level I, affectionately, call The Mother Theresa. It is the level that you give yourself and your time to others. You think of them before you think of yourself. I bypassed this level all together. But if I would have hit it, it might have looked like this…

“Well, I am glad the other owners didn’t have to take care of this. It would have been just too much money and time for them to deal with. They would have had to stay in the hotel longer and our close date might have been pushed back causing them not to move to Florida sooner.”

See how that thought pattern above really thinks of other people, instead of thinking of yourself. Many people think this is an honorable level and I can agree that we need more Mother Theresa’s in the world. Yet, this is a very draining level to sit at if you always forget about you.

Level 5: Win-win

Level five is a level that wants both sides to win. For me a level five would have tried to find the positive out of this experience for both me and the previous owners. Again, I kind of skipped this level. If we take a moment now, I would say the win for me is that I know I am hiring a good carpet cleaner and I know for sure that the carpets are getting cleaned to my satisfaction. For the previous owner, their win is they didn’t have to spend money and time doing this.

Level 6: Joy

Level six, is one of my favorite levels. The person who sits at a level six energy finds joy in everything. There is no win or lose, there simply is joyful experience. The level six would have been interested in how to clean the urine. What chemicals are used? Do they have to be toxic? Can they be organic? Whom should I call? They would find joy from finding it to solving it to enjoying the whole process. This is where I arrived for a short time.

I learned a lot about cat and dog urine. I learned how to use a black light. I learned what a fresh spot looks like and what an old spot looks like. I was educated on what to do when I purchase a home again. I could say that this whole experience in some weird way may have been enjoyable on an educational level. 🙂 Yet, I didn’t sit in this level too long either.

Level 7: Observer

Instead I just kind of moved up to the last level, level seven. Level seven is simply being an observer of the experience. There is no joy, no anger, no excitement, no sadness, no depression, there is no true emotion that we feel. Level seven can be very Spock like. So if you think to yourself, how would Spock look at this challenge, then you are more than likely coming from a level seven.

I am always reminded of that saying from that movie 7 years in Tibet:

“If a problem can be solved there is no use worrying about it. If it can’t be solved, worrying will do no good.”

To me, this saying is a level seven. It simply means that there is no need to stress or worry about a thing. Either solve it or don’t. Either way is fine. You will always move forward. You will always get to the other side. Just observe. Be curious. Watch how life unfolds.

At the end of the day, this is where I ended. I can easily fix this new challenge. I can easily know that all will be taken care of. Was it ideal? Well, you be the judge.

If you are looking at it from a high level, then ideal does not exist but at the same time it exists everywhere! 🙂


Daily Exercise

For today’s exercise, just take time to really embody that saying from 7 Years in Tibet.

If you are having a challenge, ask yourself, can it be solved? If yes, then take the time to learn how to solve it with a mindset that it is already solved and you are simply finding the solution that is already there.

And if it cannot be solved, then take time to accept what is in front you and know that the universe never gives you anything that you cannot handle.


About the 7 Levels of Energy

The 7 levels of Energy is an energy leadership system developed by a man named Bruce Schneider. Each energy has a very distinct character to it.

I offer the Energy Leadership Index Assessment as an individual service and it can really help you move through life with less struggles just by having the ability to see the different perspectives in a situation and the energy level you are presenting to the current perceived struggle or challenge.

If you are interested, schedule a dream session with me and we can go over what this knowledge can help you release in your life.



Are you ready to impact the world? If the answer is an ASTOUNDING YES!!! Then choose your next step below.

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How Do You Impact The World

How can you impact the world?

How do I impact the world?

On the surface, these two questions appear almost the same – but the answers can be quite different.

In my case, the ways in which I can impact the world include:

Recycling more… Or driving my car less… Or maybe eating more organic fruits and vegetables to lessen my footprint of chemicals on the planet.

These are actions I can take to impact the world.

But, “How DO I impact the world?”

What am I doing right now, today, in this moment, even, to impact the world?

This one gets more to the now. It gets more to your current actions.

By simply changing one word, we go from dreaming to moving into motion to make an impact on the world.

I impact the world by leading those who are lost, confused, feeling out of place in their world, feel helpless or hopeless to a passionate, fulfilling and truly inspired purposeful life. I call this: Living from your true inner smile. This is my soul’s purpose; my life’s mission.

Do you know yours?


How do you know if you are living from this inner smile?

Signs that you are living from this strong intuitive place of the inner smile may be:

  • Your mornings become a joy because when you awake you are so excited to be doing what you are doing.
  • Your brain doesn’t turn off and you don’t feel drained.
  • You think of new ideas constantly that will help people out there.

But it is actually not thinking. It is more like a river flowing through you, sending you these amazing and profound clarifications on how to create your dynamic world of service and abundance for not just you but everyone. It’s not work because it is so satisfying that you almost feel guilty when you see other people not living the excitement you get to live daily!

When people are in the flow of their purpose, they are happier, make better decisions, give more to others, shine brighter in the world and they themselves create a greater impact in the world. This impact is a never ending ripple that keeps on giving.

Coaching Moment…

My clients are people who really care about others in this world. Their purpose in life is to support people to be happier, be it through business coaching, home interiors, graphic design, etc…

The dark side

I have experienced this myself and have heard the stories from others that when you live your life purpose, there may be people in your immediate circle that try to diminish your light. They, themselves, are not going after their dreams and their fears are being directed at you in a way that disguises itself as loving support. Yet, in reality it is holding you back from making your dreams come true. In this instance, some of my clients and others I have spoken with start to feel guilt and shy away or even stop creating the inspired massive actions to live their soul’s purpose.

Living your passion in life is actually helping those around them to see what life can be when you open up to the possibilities and opportunities that are all around you. Don’t hide under a shadow if people say words that may not be supporting of your choices. Simply go find your tribe that does support you. And I can tell you right now… I SUPPORT YOU!

My goal is to instill confidence in these kind and gentle clients that goes way beyond their actual careers but into their family life, friendships, health and even taking control of their abundance in financial realms.

Confidence is a MAJOR key in getting to know you and developing this amazing, sexy self-relationship that leads you to your purpose, passion and true fulfillment in life; to your inner smile.

Who wants to sit on the sidelines and have the excuse that I was protecting my friends or family because they didn’t have the confidence to pursue their dreams? I didn’t want to make them feel bad about themselves.

I say, “Forget that!”

Let them worry about them and you go shine for yourself and ultimately for others. Because when they are done being jealous, they are going to come to you and ask you, “How did you do it? How did you find the strength to keep going even after all the obstacles? How did you keep your smile when others tried to take it away? How do you live your passion everyday?”

For me, when others started asking me this question, I knew, I had arrived to who I was meant to be. As always, it is a journey and I want to keep growing, learning, teaching, traveling, talking, writing and whatever else the universe wants to me to fulfill my karmic destiny.

This is what I want for all my clients. This is how I impact the world daily.

All it takes is one talk, a smile or a positive conversation and the next thing you know… you just changed a life.


Daily Exercise

For today’s exercise, I really want you to take time to journal about what you do to impact the world.

This type of service is what leads you to living a life full of passion and excitement. Find that one thing that you love doing that makes the most impact on someone’s life, and you are on the right track to discover the fire inside you.



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Price of Awareness and Habitual Patterns

How a minor car accident can awaken you

A couple of days ago a very interesting experience happened to me. I have lived in my place for over three years. I have a two car garage and I am the only one who uses it, usually. It all began about three days before the accident. I came home from the office and walked into a house that had many lights on, no one home and the curtains wide open in the night. I could see my roommate at been there as their things were scattered around. I didn’t think much about it. I turned off the lights, closed the curtains and headed out for my walk. Later that evening, he mentioned that he had parked in the garage to unload his car and his car wouldn’t start. I must have just arrived shortly after he started the car and moved it to one of the parking spots outside.

The next day, he mentions to me that his car didn’t start at all and he needed to get a ride to work. He also told me that his dad was arriving the following day to help him either fix or tow the car to an auto repair shop.

The following day, I awoke as usual. Readied myself for work, walked my little Bella girl (dog) and headed into the office. All very common everyday occurrences. Nothing out of the ordinary. Now, it is important to mention two facts. One, I back into my garage everyday. The reason why is I live with an alley in the back and to me it seems easier to back in instead of backing out of the garage. Second fact, my roommate doesn’t rent the other side of the garage. In the three years that I have lived here, I have probably pulled into an empty garage over 1000 times.

On this day, I came home and by habit, opened the garage door and started to back into my usual spot which is the drivers side being closest to the garage wall. I was making sure that my driver’s side mirror didn’t hit the garage entrance when my car simply stopped backing in. I was slightly confused. It is then that I checked my passenger side mirror to see that my roommate had his car in the garage and not only that but it was parked over just enough to not allow two cars into the garage.

Our bumpers were locked together. I was in shock. I carefully drove forward and went into the house to figure out what was going on. As my roommate doesn’t rent the garage and he has never parked in there before, I was lost as to why his car was there to begin with. He then reminded me that his dad had come down and they fixed the car in the garage. He meant to move it but fell asleep before he could. The damage all in all was probably around $1700 between both cars.

It took me about 24 hours to see the gift in the experience. I do believe there is a gift in all experiences in life, even ones that we might label has bad or not ideal or heartbreaking.

The Gifts

Here is what I learned from this experience. I learned that I create my own reality.

I opened the garage and didn’t see a silver car in the middle of my garage because for over 1000 times there has not been a car in my garage. Therefore, my eyes could not see what was right in front or in this case behind me. I assumed due to previous experiences what I could expect to find. Since, I would not expect to find a car in my garage, I did not see one.

This is a deep and costly lesson in awareness and habitual patterns. If I could open a garage and not see a car, what else am I blind to?

  1. Where am I missing an opportunity that is right in front of me?
  2. Where are past experiences getting in the way of me moving smoothly to my next destination?
  3. How does habitual thinking and assumptions stop me from growing? 

This is HUGE! If in the physical world I could miss a material car, what in the emotional plane could I be missing? I realized the universe sent me this BIG, EXPENSIVE message. The message was simply to wake up. Stop doing habitual patterns. Stop assuming. Instead look at the world everyday as if you haven’t lived in it before. Don’t think you know a situation just because you can recall something similar that happened in the past. It took me 24 hours to figure this out. And now, I feel blessed that it happened. I feel honored that the universe woke me up with such a small minor accident. It could have been worse. The pain more. But instead it was simply a bruise to my ego for not having a perfect looking car.

The other item I want to mention here is that when I did wake up, I began to judge myself on the fact that it took 24 hours. All this practice in spiritual awareness, meditation and mind training, I find out I am still human. That I can still become negative in a moment and have it linger. As I woke up to that, I told myself that it is okay to be human. It is okay to once in awhile let down your spiritual guard and feel the anger, the disappointment, the guilt. I looked in the mirror and said two affirmations:

I ACCEPT ALL THAT I AM.

I WAKE UP TO AWARENESS IN EVERY MOMENT.

 I let go of judgement. I welcomed in acceptance.

Where do you allow habitual patterns to stop you in your tracks from not seeing what is right in front of you?


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Guilty Pleasures Russell Brand

What can your Guilty Pleasures of life teach you?

I think we should all have all some guilty pleasures in our life. Mine is simply loving a man for his brain. Russell Brand is one of those people that can shock you, disgust you, surprise you and astound you with the words that come from his thoughts. For me, on some levels, he is too uninhibited with his words in a way that makes me blush just watching a video of some of his comedic routines. Yet, at the same time, I even admire that. He is not ashamed in any way to be who he wants to be. He has true peace inside and loves who he is knowing that this self-love transfers to the genuine love of others.

Some may say that he is egotistical and I don’t necessarily disagree but he himself would admit that fact. That is the beauty. He sees his flaws and his strengths and he loves all aspects of himself just the same. That is TRUE self-love. He doesn’t put expectations on himself, only intentions. A great lesson to bring into my own life.

In my opinion, there is something magnificent about him. The way he speaks of consciousness and his ever growing internal pure love that he exudes from his very being. He understands that the inner dynamics is what manifests the outer reality. He teaches that there is nothing of meaning in this world, unless you give it meaning. He balances the two worlds of spirituality and reality in a way that I aspire to do.

I think what I most admire about him is he is real. He is not a prophet with no mistakes, he is just like us, minus a filter.

When he first came on the scene, I was not fan. It wasn’t until he spoke from the heart that he grabbed my attention. And today, he is my guilty pleasure of watching him in interviews and deeply listening to the tidbits of intellectualism that he says in passing. I hope to continue to learn and grow from the words of wisdom he delivers. I also aspire to grow my vocabulary from listening to him.

He and I have a similar life purpose. His is to make people smile by getting them out of reality for an hour or two and allowing them to relax away from the world of struggles and disappointments. He also subtly slips into his routines his belief system in hopes to create a better tomorrow. That always makes me smile. Does the masses know that he does this? How many people actually get it?

I choose to guide people to a lifetime smile by showing them they can do what they love for the rest of their life. Many of us don’t give ourselves permission to be happy or joyous or go after our dreams. When I am in a session and I ask what do you really want? My clients answer with many different visions. But the best part comes after that. I show them a way to give themselves permission to be who they want to be and find their tribe that will support them. By guiding one life, I hope they will guide two and then each of those will guide another two and so forth. My intention is to leave this world a better place as well.

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Lessons Learned from Russell Brand

  • Go after your dreams
  • Always keep growing and learning
  • Believe in yourself
  • Know your true purpose
  • Love who you are
  • Share your light with the world
  • Laugh at yourself; Don’t take life to seriously
  • Intend for a happy life yet be grateful for whatever may happen

 

Tell me, who is your guilty pleasure? What do you learn from them? How do they help you change your perspective?

What did Walter Mitty Teach Me

The Secret Life of Walter Mitty

On Sunday afternoon as I was sitting preparing for 2014, I decided I wanted to take a break and get out of the house. I grabbed my hat and coat, and out the door I went. I walked up to the local mall and decided seeing a movie and getting out of my head for a little while would do me some good.

As I looked over the possible choices, one movie kept jumping out at me… The Secret Life of Walter Mitty. I do love adventure movies.

I thought the Secret Life of Walter Mitty was a brilliant representation of a person who wants and craves more from life. They have played it safe and secure behind a desk and a so-called career. When love is at stake, Walter reaches beyond his limits and let’s go of fear. What lies ahead is a magnificent tale of adventure, courage and facing challenges once thought to be greater than he. At the end, you see a renewed man who knows without doubt that he can now face any experience that flows to him.

The movie itself has beautiful scenery of Iceland, Greenland and the Himalayas. Ben Stiller does a great job of balancing comedy with soul searching yet quiet drama. I walked away from that theatre with my own renewed intention to continue having as many adventures as I can in this life. It was encouraging and reaffirming.

That was exactly what I needed. As I was walking home, I set my intentions for 2014.

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What did Walter Mitty teach me?

  1. To live a life of adventure
  2. To look fear right in the eye and keep moving forward
  3. To believe in Love
  4. To balance life’s lessons with laughter, grace and humility
  5. To be confident and courageous
  6. To use imagination (which is the key to manifestation) to seek what I desire
  7. To create solutions from challenges

 

If you watch this movie, you will see each of these intentions on several scenes of the movie. Walter didn’t let anything stop him from getting what he wanted. He pushed past fear. He drew courage through imagination and love.  He created solutions where other people may have given up.

He finally manifested a life of adventure even if it took 16  years of fantasy to make it happen. Ah, patience. He was a man of great patience. Beautiful.

Isn’t it great how the universe will put all the tools right in front of you exactly when you need them to move you forward. These seven intentions is exactly what I needed to see my world open up in 2014. I will look at these daily, morning and night. Read them with full feeling and infused love. My actions will be judged against these to know that what I want to create in 2014 will be adventurous, fearless and courageous, done with love, grace, laughter, confidence and humility, will contain creative solutions to any challenges I may face, and will come from my imagination or as I like to say infinite potentiality.

Happy New Year!!!

 

How to Keep Your Promises…

Steps Towards a More Motivated Life

Every new coaching client I accept into my programs, one of the first questions I ask is, “How good are you at keeping promises to yourself?”

In order to create a true transformation, a key ingredient is to be able to make a commitment; to make a promise to yourself to really go after your dreams, your goals, or whatever it is you are looking to accomplish in your life.

I hear people all the time say they can keep commitments to other people but not to themselves. I always challenge that. When performing a deep dive into that statement, I usually will find an excuse or two on why they couldn’t keep that commitment or this commitment to someone. As the old saying goes…
“How You Do Anything Is How You Do Everything”

Therefore if you are not committing to yourself, more than likely you are not doing that great of job committing to other people or projects.

To be of true service to the world, you should want to look within and make those all important reflective changes to have the ability to open up your world to new possibilities. That is why it is of utmost importance to keep promises to yourself.

When entering into any coaching program or any course be it educational or physical such as exercise, that promise to yourself that you will do what it takes to make it happen is the number one first ingredient.

But the question lies, how do you keep your promises to yourself? How do you keep that commitment? What are your blocks and how do you push past them?

Discovering What Blocks You

Many people search high and low for techniques to find what blocks them. There is a belief that only a trained professional can uncover those deep unconscious blocks that you cannot uncover for yourself. Well, let me tell you a secret I discovered. Simply ask a person why they haven’t completed a task and they will spew off 101 excuses. Too busy. Don’t have the equipment. Don’t know how to write. Ideas just don’t come easy these days. No money. Working two jobs. Etc… You get the point. All those excuses are the blocks. They are what stop you from moving forward. It really is as simple as that.

As a coach, my job is to listen into those excuses and then ask two simple questions, “What would it be like if you didn’t have that excuse? Once the excuse is removed, how would you motivate yourself then?”

If I hear another excuse, I would ask the same two questions again and again until we drill down to what is really stopping them. What I usually undercover is that they are not ready and they are too afraid to admit it because they think admittance would be a failure. This causes them to feel that they themselves are the failure. That feeling is the true limiting belief that is stopping them from achieving their goal or keeping their promise. They already see themselves as a failure and therefore, manifest the failure within them by subconsciously creating action steps that keeps them stuck.

BELIEVE

YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE! In Fact, you are very successful just as you are! 🙂

There is something else that is more of a priority and our job together is finding that one item you keep denying yourself. Whether that means taking writing classes to become a confident writer or learning how to manage time so you can fit in an exercise practice. When we find it and complete that goal, then the other goal will more than likely fall into place.

Finding that other priority goal is not always that easy. Sometimes it takes 3 to 4 sessions just to locate why you are making excuses. For instance, there was a client of mine that for some reason had the toughest time finishing this scrap book project she had been working on for years. She originally came to me because she wanted to start her own business but over time all her tasks kept going uncompleted. We talked about it for over two months and she couldn’t keep her promises to finish many of the tasks she herself set in our sessions. Finally one day I asked, “What is your longest running project?” She talked about this scrap book and how she always wanted to finish it but never had time. This scrap book was over 15 years old. I stopped her right then and there and gave her one task… Finish the scrap book. Within two weeks she went back to that old project and actually finished it!!! WOW! What an accomplishment.

Over the next two weeks of finishing that one project, she started to complete all others. She had hidden that priority so deep inside her, that she forgot about it; yet it was the one block that was stopping her from moving forward because her thought was that she was a failure and that she didn’t have the ability to keep promises to herself.  She didn’t recognize just how important that scrap book was to her.

You see, you may also have a hidden priority that could be stopping you. Ask yourself, when is the last time you kept a promise to yourself? Get into it. Feel what accomplishing that promise felt like. Relive the moment. You might be surprised what you uncover.

Other times, when I hear deep silence from a client, I can tell they are hesitating. Usually, that hesitation means they know exactly what the priority project is and either they have fear to admit it or they haven’t broken it down into smaller pieces and therefore the goal is overwhelming to them. A trained and experienced time management coach will be able to work through that with you so you can break it down and begin to chip away at it.

Moving into Keeping your Promises

Now that you discovered your block; Your true block, not your “made up excuses” blocks. You can begin to open up to an awareness that will move you past the block and into motivation. In this stage, we focus on that motivation and the advantage of completing the desired goal. What will completing that goal do for you? What will it look like? How can you make it fun? What are the ways to make it ridiculously easy?

It is said that to keep promises you have to have discipline. But the more I read about discipline, the more I think it is an illusion. Google defines discipline this way:

dis·ci·pline /noun

the practice of training people to obey rules or a code of behavior, using punishment to correct disobedience.

UGH! Who would want discipline?!? I say forget the negative side of discipline and welcome in the positive side of motivation.

mo·ti·va·tion /noun

the reason or reasons one has for acting or behaving in a particular way.

Define your reasons on why exercising or writing that book or developing that speech or quitting that dead end job are important to you. Write them down. Repeat them out loud everyday. Get support and don’t give up. Your desire is important. That goal you really want to have is important. Those blocks that keep you from your goal are not important.

Finally, The 12 Steps to Keeping Your Promises to YOU

Here is the part you all have been waiting for. What are the steps to keep promises to yourself?

  1. Bring to light and admit what goal or promise you are not keeping.
  2. Define the reasons why that goal is important to you and read those reasons everyday, either before bed or first thing when you wake up in the morning or both. This is the feeling part. Make it personal for you. What are the values; the deep desires to complete this goal?
  3. Determine the blocks by telling yourself the excuses.
  4. Work towards removing the blocks (this is easier to complete with a partner, such as a coach, therapist or supportive friend or sponsor)
  5. If there is a hidden goal that needs to be completed first, find it and prioritize it so you move on to that burning desire that is within you now.
  6. Develop a support system to keep you accountable.
  7. Break down the steps if you are in overwhelm.
  8. Find the advantages to keeping the promise. How will this help others? How will this help your timeline or schedule or your future? If you complete this, then what will happen?
  9. Discover how to make it fun.
  10. Have PATIENCE! So many people forget this step. You will want to remember that life is a journey not a destination.
  11. Live in Acceptance. Sometimes we don’t always get what we want, but we receive what we need.
  12. Trust you are exactly where you are supposed to be.

I’ll leave you with this last quote from a song by The Rolling Stones…

You Can’t Always Get What You Want… But if you try sometimes, you get what you need!

The Power of Thoughts and Simple 1 Step Solution

Have you ever felt this way?

Picture this…

You are at work. Someone comes to you and hands you a task that you don’t want to accomplish. It is not a fun task. It is time consuming and not in a good challenging way. You know you have to do it but man is it hard to focus when you are not thrilled about it.

Your thoughts may include:

  • This Sucks!
  • Why Me?
  • I am so unhappy at this task.

If you answered yes to that picture above, let me offer you a simple 1 step solution.

Instead of thinking that the task at hand makes you unhappy, ask yourself this simple question.

What would it be like to let go of that thought or idea or picture in your head that the task makes you unhappy?

Please Take a Moment

I want you to really think about the answer above. You have a thought that states, “I am unhappy with this task“. Okay.

Now just picture letting that thought go.

Spend a few minutes here.
Take a out a piece of paper and pen and write it down.

  • What would it be like?
  • How would you feel to remove that thought?
  • How would the task change?

Now, replace that thought. Say outloud and affirm it with 100% confidence…

I am releasing any negative thoughts on this task. I am happy to perform this task and thrilled to be of service to this project. I am happy.

It is as simple as that. Some people who are limited in their thinking may argue against the idea that it is as simple as adopting another thought but it is that simple. We humans make things so complex when in reality it is really just that simple to forgive, to let go, to move on, to change your thoughts. It may take practice to get good at this skill. But the more you practice, the easier it becomes just like all things in life.

Here is another affirmation:

I believe with all my heart that changing my thoughts are easy.

Adopt the idea that changing your thoughts is easy and suddenly your world opens up to new ways of thinking and looking at a situation. All thoughts are perceptions that occur from our past experiences and perceived ideas of the current situation. If you can become aware of this fact and remove those perceptions than any task that does not go against your main values can be exactly what you want that task to be.

In the case of this article, we are simply introducing the concept that rethinking a thought that helps you be more productive either at work or in life can create a more balanced approach to events that happen around you. This concept of asking yourself to remove the thought that is not serving you is a simple practice for when the bigger experiences in life come your way. If you begin small and can change your thoughts on something so simple as a task that is not so much fun, can you imagine where you will go on a huge experience that may have a negative label such as sad or lonely?

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Steps to Solving Reasonless Depression

I have come to a place in my life where on a normal day to day living, I successfully stay in a positive mindset and see the world through a happy lens. Yes, I am excitable but very little seems to stick with me longer then a hour or two or maybe (but rarely) a day or two, depending on the level of the labeled experience.

Yet, there are times where a reasonless depression takes over. This weekend was one of those times. I was depressed. For really no reason. I had food. I had clothes. I had a roof over my head. Gas in my car. There was no reason.

A client of mine just a week before was feeling a lot of anxiety. I had suggested something I had heard from several spiritual leaders that to fully remove an unwanted or undesirable feeling, you first must fully feel it.

“Okay. Let’s practice what we preach”, I thought.

I woke up on Monday morning and sat up with this heavy feeling on my shoulders. I first observed my body language. The sides of my lips curled down. My head hung low. My eyes, heavy and gazing at the ground. My muscles ached. A slight headache was at the edge of my forehead. I felt lethargic, lonely and unmotivated.

I grabbed my journal and wrote thoughts down that came from this overall feeling of nothingness. The thoughts were about me not being good enough. Failing like usual. Why am I even trying. More kept coming and I just kept writing them down as I heard them. Then I went over possible reasons for why my emotional body needed to feel this way. I wrote down about 6 and that is really when things started to move forward for me. They ranged from money to weight to a lost friendship to high expectations. I realized, I could have probably kept going but then I stopped. Depression was knocking on the door. It just wants to be heard and felt and loved. It wants a hug and understanding; compassion and a friend.

At this time, I decided to perform a visualization technique. I visualized opening the door, welcoming depression with open arms and giving him a big spiritual loving hug. We sat down at the wooden table and had tea. I listened, nodded and was really present in the moment for depression. I gave him compassion, love and understanding. I let the thoughts in my head escape onto the paper and then checked in. Asked if it needed to tell me more.

And there was more…

There was a gift. Depression said that he was worried about me. I work so hard with no breaks and really he was hear to check up on me. We both smiled and it was then that I realized the gift in full. Depression visits me when I need a break. When I need to slow down and sleep. Take time for reading and relaxing with my furchildren. To simply enjoy the sun and the outside. I looked at depression deep into his eyes and said, “Thank you. Thank you for being there for me. Thank you for slowing me down to rest. Thank you for your precious gift. For you arrived exactly on time. Exactly when I needed you.” And deep down inside, depression knew that. Then we enjoyed another big spiritual loving hug and I looked him square in the face one more time and said, “I LOVE YOU!”

At that moment, a smile came to my lips. My body no longer ached. My heart skipped a beat. Joy spread over me like a flowing river. My energy increased and I knew I was ready for the day no matter what may come. Depression looked right back at me and said, “Be Brave. Be Fearless. When you need me, I will be there again.”

All emotions have wonderful gifts to teach. May we be brave enough to listen, be open and accepting and ready for their precious gifts.

This taught me that for all feelings, we should observe them fully in our bodies, both emotional and physical. My Mo•Clar Moment was that my depression was simply a gift to slow me down and send me the much needed message of rest.

In Summary the Steps to Solve a Reasonless Depression are as follows:
  1. Fully feel it.
  2. Observe it physically.
  3. Record all these observations in a journal.
  4. Write the thoughts as they arrive to your conscious mind.
  5. Visualize an unattached conversation with the feeling. Be very detailed and imaginative.
  6. Listen closely for the gifts.
  7. Send lots of love, understanding and compassion.
  8. Be your own friend.
  9. Be thankful for that moment.
  10. Write down the overall meaning and then bless it.

Death and A Moment of Clarity

How Losing Someone Creates Clarity

Today, I put together a tribute video for my dad’s late wife, Deborah. It is the second one this year. On December 17, 2012, the day of my birthday, my furson (aka dog) Zack, crossed over. On his birthday, May 7 of 2013, I made a tribute video for him to celebrate his life and say Happy Birthday one more time. Today, my dad was able to say Happy Anniversary to his wife one more time.

When you lose someone be it a person or a pet, it does something to you. Not only do you feel grief, loss, sadness but you start to review your life, where you are at? What you’re doing? And are you happy? My Zack gifted me with a miracle when he passed. He awakened me. He gave his life so that I could start mine. Isn’t that the ultimate sacrifice? His transition caused me to search further on my purpose of life. It created clarity in me that I wanted to do something bigger; something more meaningful. I wanted to spiritually move people…assist them on their journey. I wanted to help on a bigger scale.

Some people will be lost in their grief. They will mourn and forget to live. They will lose their clarity in life. Their attachment to that person or pet defined them, who they were, what they were about? But some of us, will rise. We will see that the relationship was the gift and that those lessons will continue forever. It is our free will that helps us decide to move forward when we lose someone. Those left behind in the physical world still have a purpose to fulfill. You are still here because you have not yet fulfilled your purpose.

Death can sometimes bring that moment of clarity when you know that you need to change something, improve something or it will confirm that you are on the right path. I have deep gratitude for my furson Zack and for his gift of life to awaken me. Because I live so deeply by my 7 core governing clarity principles, I do not regret what has happened. I see all experiences as helping me grow as a person and a soul.

For those that are still lost in grief, I always first recommend a good therapist. Then second, I recommend the following:

  1. Ask yourself, what was the gift of that relationship?
  2. How did that relationship help you to grow?
  3. What was the gift when they crossed over?
  4. What did you learn?
  5. What could you now see?
  6. What is the gift of sadness?
  7. Where do you want to go from here?
  8. How do you want to celebrate their life through your living?

I always tell my clients to look at it from their perspective. They wouldn’t want you to be sad. They wouldn’t want you to stop living. They would want to see you smile, enjoy life and laugh. So ask yourself to see the clarity that comes from this life journey. They are not gone. They just crossed over. They are still with you in spirit. And if you close your eyes in meditation long enough you might even be able to feel them next to you.