Can Pet Urine Make You a Better Person

A story is only a good story if it has challenges and triumphs from those challenges. At least that is what the movies tell us. 😉

Here’s Mine.

Recently, I decided to move from California to Colorado. I think I just needed a change of pace; a change of scenery. Maybe, it was that I needed to be inspired again and sometimes a move does this for you.

When I arrived in Colorado, I asked the universe for two things. I was ready for a relationship and to begin dating again. I was also ready to finally purchase a home and become a home owner.

I looked to the sky and told the energies that I was very grateful for all they have done for me. I am very blessed and live a blessed life. I let them know that my request that will follow is simply a desire that if granted would bring me even more uplifting energy. Then I closed my eyes, felt love in my heart and said out loud…

I really want a home to call my own.

Just weeks later I found a cute little house, perfect for me. It has a sunroom that I will turn into a meditation / atrium room. It has three bedrooms and three baths, with space for guests. It has this wonderful old Colorado mountainesque character; real wood throughout the whole house.

As soon as I stepped inside, I felt an ease. I felt at home. I thought this is it. It needed some love as it was built in 1984 and needed to be updated but I thought I was the perfect person to give it the love it needed.

So, I bought the house.

As previous and current home owners may know, you only get to see the home two or three times before purchasing the home. The night I received the keys, I stretched out on the floor of the living room, filled with the satisfaction of being a proud new homeowner.

That’s when I caught a whiff of something.

Something sour.

I began to sniff.

Rolled over. Got on my hands and knees. Put my face into the carpet.

Ah, There’s no mistaking the smell of cat pee.

How the 7 Levels of Energy helped me see the light

So here I am in my living room, realizing that I might have to not only paint and fix some out of date issues but now, rip up my carpet.

Ever hear about the 5 stages of grief? Well, I work with this other thing called the 7 levels of energy.

Here’s what happened next.

Level 1: Victim

I quickly recognized that I was feeling a lot of level one in this moment. The level one energy is a victim energy. Like, “Woe is me” or the Murphy’s Law Syndrome, “These things always happen to me.”

I knew I didn’t want to be a victim. I know I am always in charge of my life. I didn’t have to purchase this home. I chose to. So, I made a conscious effort to move to level two and get angry at the previous owner for not disclosing how bad this situation was.

Level 2: Anger

Many people think that anger is a very negative feeling or emotion. But anger can also be this great catalyst to motivate yourself into action. And I wanted to get motivated to solve the challenge. Yet, I didn’t move quite as fast as I had hoped. I went from level two, anger to level three, coping.

Level 3: Rationalizing / Coping

When I told the story to my family I would say things like,  “Well, I have pets. At least these pets had a good home. Maybe the previous owners lived with the smell so long that they didn’t even notice.” Level three is a lot of this making excuses or rationalizing for other people. I got stuck in this level for about three days.

Level 4: Martyrdom

I never did hit level four. Level four is a level I, affectionately, call The Mother Theresa. It is the level that you give yourself and your time to others. You think of them before you think of yourself. I bypassed this level all together. But if I would have hit it, it might have looked like this…

“Well, I am glad the other owners didn’t have to take care of this. It would have been just too much money and time for them to deal with. They would have had to stay in the hotel longer and our close date might have been pushed back causing them not to move to Florida sooner.”

See how that thought pattern above really thinks of other people, instead of thinking of yourself. Many people think this is an honorable level and I can agree that we need more Mother Theresa’s in the world. Yet, this is a very draining level to sit at if you always forget about you.

Level 5: Win-win

Level five is a level that wants both sides to win. For me a level five would have tried to find the positive out of this experience for both me and the previous owners. Again, I kind of skipped this level. If we take a moment now, I would say the win for me is that I know I am hiring a good carpet cleaner and I know for sure that the carpets are getting cleaned to my satisfaction. For the previous owner, their win is they didn’t have to spend money and time doing this.

Level 6: Joy

Level six, is one of my favorite levels. The person who sits at a level six energy finds joy in everything. There is no win or lose, there simply is joyful experience. The level six would have been interested in how to clean the urine. What chemicals are used? Do they have to be toxic? Can they be organic? Whom should I call? They would find joy from finding it to solving it to enjoying the whole process. This is where I arrived for a short time.

I learned a lot about cat and dog urine. I learned how to use a black light. I learned what a fresh spot looks like and what an old spot looks like. I was educated on what to do when I purchase a home again. I could say that this whole experience in some weird way may have been enjoyable on an educational level. 🙂 Yet, I didn’t sit in this level too long either.

Level 7: Observer

Instead I just kind of moved up to the last level, level seven. Level seven is simply being an observer of the experience. There is no joy, no anger, no excitement, no sadness, no depression, there is no true emotion that we feel. Level seven can be very Spock like. So if you think to yourself, how would Spock look at this challenge, then you are more than likely coming from a level seven.

I am always reminded of that saying from that movie 7 years in Tibet:

“If a problem can be solved there is no use worrying about it. If it can’t be solved, worrying will do no good.”

To me, this saying is a level seven. It simply means that there is no need to stress or worry about a thing. Either solve it or don’t. Either way is fine. You will always move forward. You will always get to the other side. Just observe. Be curious. Watch how life unfolds.

At the end of the day, this is where I ended. I can easily fix this new challenge. I can easily know that all will be taken care of. Was it ideal? Well, you be the judge.

If you are looking at it from a high level, then ideal does not exist but at the same time it exists everywhere! 🙂

Daily Exercise

For today’s exercise, just take time to really embody that saying from 7 Years in Tibet.

If you are having a challenge, ask yourself, can it be solved? If yes, then take the time to learn how to solve it with a mindset that it is already solved and you are simply finding the solution that is already there.

And if it cannot be solved, then take time to accept what is in front you and know that the universe never gives you anything that you cannot handle.

About the 7 Levels of Energy

The 7 levels of Energy is an energy leadership system developed by a man named Bruce Schneider. Each energy has a very distinct character to it.

I offer the Energy Leadership Index Assessment as an individual service and it can really help you move through life with less struggles just by having the ability to see the different perspectives in a situation and the energy level you are presenting to the current perceived struggle or challenge.

If you are interested, schedule a dream session with me and we can go over what this knowledge can help you release in your life.

Are you ready to impact the world? If the answer is an ASTOUNDING YES!!! Then choose your next step below.

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How Do You Impact The World

How can you impact the world?

How do I impact the world?

On the surface, these two questions appear almost the same – but the answers can be quite different.

In my case, the ways in which I can impact the world include:

Recycling more… Or driving my car less… Or maybe eating more organic fruits and vegetables to lessen my footprint of chemicals on the planet.

These are actions I can take to impact the world.

But, “How DO I impact the world?”

What am I doing right now, today, in this moment, even, to impact the world?

This one gets more to the now. It gets more to your current actions.

By simply changing one word, we go from dreaming to moving into motion to make an impact on the world.

I impact the world by leading those who are lost, confused, feeling out of place in their world, feel helpless or hopeless to a passionate, fulfilling and truly inspired purposeful life. I call this: Living from your true inner smile. This is my soul’s purpose; my life’s mission.

Do you know yours?

How do you know if you are living from this inner smile?

Signs that you are living from this strong intuitive place of the inner smile may be:

  • Your mornings become a joy because when you awake you are so excited to be doing what you are doing.
  • Your brain doesn’t turn off and you don’t feel drained.
  • You think of new ideas constantly that will help people out there.

But it is actually not thinking. It is more like a river flowing through you, sending you these amazing and profound clarifications on how to create your dynamic world of service and abundance for not just you but everyone. It’s not work because it is so satisfying that you almost feel guilty when you see other people not living the excitement you get to live daily!

When people are in the flow of their purpose, they are happier, make better decisions, give more to others, shine brighter in the world and they themselves create a greater impact in the world. This impact is a never ending ripple that keeps on giving.

Coaching Moment…

My clients are people who really care about others in this world. Their purpose in life is to support people to be happier, be it through business coaching, home interiors, graphic design, etc…

The dark side

I have experienced this myself and have heard the stories from others that when you live your life purpose, there may be people in your immediate circle that try to diminish your light. They, themselves, are not going after their dreams and their fears are being directed at you in a way that disguises itself as loving support. Yet, in reality it is holding you back from making your dreams come true. In this instance, some of my clients and others I have spoken with start to feel guilt and shy away or even stop creating the inspired massive actions to live their soul’s purpose.

Living your passion in life is actually helping those around them to see what life can be when you open up to the possibilities and opportunities that are all around you. Don’t hide under a shadow if people say words that may not be supporting of your choices. Simply go find your tribe that does support you. And I can tell you right now… I SUPPORT YOU!

My goal is to instill confidence in these kind and gentle clients that goes way beyond their actual careers but into their family life, friendships, health and even taking control of their abundance in financial realms.

Confidence is a MAJOR key in getting to know you and developing this amazing, sexy self-relationship that leads you to your purpose, passion and true fulfillment in life; to your inner smile.

Who wants to sit on the sidelines and have the excuse that I was protecting my friends or family because they didn’t have the confidence to pursue their dreams? I didn’t want to make them feel bad about themselves.

I say, “Forget that!”

Let them worry about them and you go shine for yourself and ultimately for others. Because when they are done being jealous, they are going to come to you and ask you, “How did you do it? How did you find the strength to keep going even after all the obstacles? How did you keep your smile when others tried to take it away? How do you live your passion everyday?”

For me, when others started asking me this question, I knew, I had arrived to who I was meant to be. As always, it is a journey and I want to keep growing, learning, teaching, traveling, talking, writing and whatever else the universe wants to me to fulfill my karmic destiny.

This is what I want for all my clients. This is how I impact the world daily.

All it takes is one talk, a smile or a positive conversation and the next thing you know… you just changed a life.

Daily Exercise

For today’s exercise, I really want you to take time to journal about what you do to impact the world.

This type of service is what leads you to living a life full of passion and excitement. Find that one thing that you love doing that makes the most impact on someone’s life, and you are on the right track to discover the fire inside you.

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Price of Awareness and Habitual Patterns

How a minor car accident can awaken you

A couple of days ago a very interesting experience happened to me. I have lived in my place for over three years. I have a two car garage and I am the only one who uses it, usually. It all began about three days before the accident. I came home from the office and walked into a house that had many lights on, no one home and the curtains wide open in the night. I could see my roommate at been there as their things were scattered around. I didn’t think much about it. I turned off the lights, closed the curtains and headed out for my walk. Later that evening, he mentioned that he had parked in the garage to unload his car and his car wouldn’t start. I must have just arrived shortly after he started the car and moved it to one of the parking spots outside.

The next day, he mentions to me that his car didn’t start at all and he needed to get a ride to work. He also told me that his dad was arriving the following day to help him either fix or tow the car to an auto repair shop.

The following day, I awoke as usual. Readied myself for work, walked my little Bella girl (dog) and headed into the office. All very common everyday occurrences. Nothing out of the ordinary. Now, it is important to mention two facts. One, I back into my garage everyday. The reason why is I live with an alley in the back and to me it seems easier to back in instead of backing out of the garage. Second fact, my roommate doesn’t rent the other side of the garage. In the three years that I have lived here, I have probably pulled into an empty garage over 1000 times.

On this day, I came home and by habit, opened the garage door and started to back into my usual spot which is the drivers side being closest to the garage wall. I was making sure that my driver’s side mirror didn’t hit the garage entrance when my car simply stopped backing in. I was slightly confused. It is then that I checked my passenger side mirror to see that my roommate had his car in the garage and not only that but it was parked over just enough to not allow two cars into the garage.

Our bumpers were locked together. I was in shock. I carefully drove forward and went into the house to figure out what was going on. As my roommate doesn’t rent the garage and he has never parked in there before, I was lost as to why his car was there to begin with. He then reminded me that his dad had come down and they fixed the car in the garage. He meant to move it but fell asleep before he could. The damage all in all was probably around $1700 between both cars.

It took me about 24 hours to see the gift in the experience. I do believe there is a gift in all experiences in life, even ones that we might label has bad or not ideal or heartbreaking.

The Gifts

Here is what I learned from this experience. I learned that I create my own reality.

I opened the garage and didn’t see a silver car in the middle of my garage because for over 1000 times there has not been a car in my garage. Therefore, my eyes could not see what was right in front or in this case behind me. I assumed due to previous experiences what I could expect to find. Since, I would not expect to find a car in my garage, I did not see one.

This is a deep and costly lesson in awareness and habitual patterns. If I could open a garage and not see a car, what else am I blind to?

  1. Where am I missing an opportunity that is right in front of me?
  2. Where are past experiences getting in the way of me moving smoothly to my next destination?
  3. How does habitual thinking and assumptions stop me from growing? 

This is HUGE! If in the physical world I could miss a material car, what in the emotional plane could I be missing? I realized the universe sent me this BIG, EXPENSIVE message. The message was simply to wake up. Stop doing habitual patterns. Stop assuming. Instead look at the world everyday as if you haven’t lived in it before. Don’t think you know a situation just because you can recall something similar that happened in the past. It took me 24 hours to figure this out. And now, I feel blessed that it happened. I feel honored that the universe woke me up with such a small minor accident. It could have been worse. The pain more. But instead it was simply a bruise to my ego for not having a perfect looking car.

The other item I want to mention here is that when I did wake up, I began to judge myself on the fact that it took 24 hours. All this practice in spiritual awareness, meditation and mind training, I find out I am still human. That I can still become negative in a moment and have it linger. As I woke up to that, I told myself that it is okay to be human. It is okay to once in awhile let down your spiritual guard and feel the anger, the disappointment, the guilt. I looked in the mirror and said two affirmations:



 I let go of judgement. I welcomed in acceptance.

Where do you allow habitual patterns to stop you in your tracks from not seeing what is right in front of you?

If you feel drawn to share your story, I am always blessed to receive it. Namaste.

Guilty Pleasures Russell Brand

What can your Guilty Pleasures of life teach you?

I think we should all have all some guilty pleasures in our life. Mine is simply loving a man for his brain. Russell Brand is one of those people that can shock you, disgust you, surprise you and astound you with the words that come from his thoughts. For me, on some levels, he is too uninhibited with his words in a way that makes me blush just watching a video of some of his comedic routines. Yet, at the same time, I even admire that. He is not ashamed in any way to be who he wants to be. He has true peace inside and loves who he is knowing that this self-love transfers to the genuine love of others.

Some may say that he is egotistical and I don’t necessarily disagree but he himself would admit that fact. That is the beauty. He sees his flaws and his strengths and he loves all aspects of himself just the same. That is TRUE self-love. He doesn’t put expectations on himself, only intentions. A great lesson to bring into my own life.

In my opinion, there is something magnificent about him. The way he speaks of consciousness and his ever growing internal pure love that he exudes from his very being. He understands that the inner dynamics is what manifests the outer reality. He teaches that there is nothing of meaning in this world, unless you give it meaning. He balances the two worlds of spirituality and reality in a way that I aspire to do.

I think what I most admire about him is he is real. He is not a prophet with no mistakes, he is just like us, minus a filter.

When he first came on the scene, I was not fan. It wasn’t until he spoke from the heart that he grabbed my attention. And today, he is my guilty pleasure of watching him in interviews and deeply listening to the tidbits of intellectualism that he says in passing. I hope to continue to learn and grow from the words of wisdom he delivers. I also aspire to grow my vocabulary from listening to him.

He and I have a similar life purpose. His is to make people smile by getting them out of reality for an hour or two and allowing them to relax away from the world of struggles and disappointments. He also subtly slips into his routines his belief system in hopes to create a better tomorrow. That always makes me smile. Does the masses know that he does this? How many people actually get it?

I choose to guide people to a lifetime smile by showing them they can do what they love for the rest of their life. Many of us don’t give ourselves permission to be happy or joyous or go after our dreams. When I am in a session and I ask what do you really want? My clients answer with many different visions. But the best part comes after that. I show them a way to give themselves permission to be who they want to be and find their tribe that will support them. By guiding one life, I hope they will guide two and then each of those will guide another two and so forth. My intention is to leave this world a better place as well.

Russell Brand

Lessons Learned from Russell Brand

  • Go after your dreams
  • Always keep growing and learning
  • Believe in yourself
  • Know your true purpose
  • Love who you are
  • Share your light with the world
  • Laugh at yourself; Don’t take life to seriously
  • Intend for a happy life yet be grateful for whatever may happen


Tell me, who is your guilty pleasure? What do you learn from them? How do they help you change your perspective?

What did Walter Mitty Teach Me

The Secret Life of Walter Mitty

On Sunday afternoon as I was sitting preparing for 2014, I decided I wanted to take a break and get out of the house. I grabbed my hat and coat, and out the door I went. I walked up to the local mall and decided seeing a movie and getting out of my head for a little while would do me some good.

As I looked over the possible choices, one movie kept jumping out at me… The Secret Life of Walter Mitty. I do love adventure movies.

I thought the Secret Life of Walter Mitty was a brilliant representation of a person who wants and craves more from life. They have played it safe and secure behind a desk and a so-called career. When love is at stake, Walter reaches beyond his limits and let’s go of fear. What lies ahead is a magnificent tale of adventure, courage and facing challenges once thought to be greater than he. At the end, you see a renewed man who knows without doubt that he can now face any experience that flows to him.

The movie itself has beautiful scenery of Iceland, Greenland and the Himalayas. Ben Stiller does a great job of balancing comedy with soul searching yet quiet drama. I walked away from that theatre with my own renewed intention to continue having as many adventures as I can in this life. It was encouraging and reaffirming.

That was exactly what I needed. As I was walking home, I set my intentions for 2014.


What did Walter Mitty teach me?

  1. To live a life of adventure
  2. To look fear right in the eye and keep moving forward
  3. To believe in Love
  4. To balance life’s lessons with laughter, grace and humility
  5. To be confident and courageous
  6. To use imagination (which is the key to manifestation) to seek what I desire
  7. To create solutions from challenges


If you watch this movie, you will see each of these intentions on several scenes of the movie. Walter didn’t let anything stop him from getting what he wanted. He pushed past fear. He drew courage through imagination and love.  He created solutions where other people may have given up.

He finally manifested a life of adventure even if it took 16  years of fantasy to make it happen. Ah, patience. He was a man of great patience. Beautiful.

Isn’t it great how the universe will put all the tools right in front of you exactly when you need them to move you forward. These seven intentions is exactly what I needed to see my world open up in 2014. I will look at these daily, morning and night. Read them with full feeling and infused love. My actions will be judged against these to know that what I want to create in 2014 will be adventurous, fearless and courageous, done with love, grace, laughter, confidence and humility, will contain creative solutions to any challenges I may face, and will come from my imagination or as I like to say infinite potentiality.

Happy New Year!!!


Redefining Abundance On Your Own Terms

I wish to secretly or not so secretly redefine abundance.

I believe abundance is the freedom to experience life on your terms and your desires. I believe that you can do anything you want as long as it doesn’t break the two golden rules which simply are do not harm and do not judge another living being on their quest to do the same.

Abundance defined in this way accepts all lived lives; the adventurers who are perpetual travelers, the stay at home moms who wish nothing more than to raise the next generation, the hard working person who loves a day job so they can support a hobby or live a simple life in their hometown and the grandma who decided to take up singing and join a over 60’s Rock band at 61.

Abundance is simply what you want more of. At MoClar Moments we take the time to listen and assist you in defining what authentic abundance means for you. It is so important to get very clear on what a life of authentic abundance looks like for you.

  • What is your personal happy scale?
  • What dreams make you giddy like a child? And Why?
  • What are the steps to live your life authentically?
  • If you had unlimited opportunities and you couldn’t fail what would you do today?

Daydreaming is one of the biggest tools you can use to know who you really are. I day dream of travel. I day dream of love. I day dream to be able to one day own a quaint little home and sit in my beautifully landscaped backyard drinking my favorite Yogi green tea with the morning sun and looking out to a breath-taking vista. I day dream of a garden where I grow at least 30% of my food. I daydream to be a earth disciple and do what it takes to awaken people to another way of thinking, another way of life that will be a win win for Mother Earth and the human race and all the living beings on this living planet. I daydream of the freedom to experience life in all its glory. This is my authentic abundance. Not a million dollar house or a fancy BMW. This isn’t me dreaming small. This is me dreaming my authentic life in my own authentic way.

I hear so many people who come to me thinking having the big house and the fancy car and the demanding social life is what abundance looks like. As I work with my clients to define their true abundance scale, I usually find that they are truly happy with taking one extra week on vacation instead of traveling the world for a year. Others I have found want little material objects so they can be free to be spontaneous in where they live. They don’t fit the average stereotypical story for what abundance is sold as. If dreaming of a million dollar home is your authentic dream, then I support you 100%. But don’t dream someone else’s dream. Dream your life.

A good sign that you are dreaming someone else’s dream is you feel that abundance is out of reach. That is when stepping back and really defining authentic abundance on your terms is important if not necessary. The fastest way I have found to get detailed is either meditating and then journaling for a few weeks to a couple of months or working with a life coach who can ask those inquisitive questions to get your right brain thinking and creating the life of your dreams.

Take time to define what you really want and be very truthful with yourself.

What is your truest beliefs and values for your dreams?

MoClar Moment’s goal is to assist you on that path of defining your passionate and authentic life and creating the mindset, speech and powerful inspired action plans to get you from point A to Point U!!

Your task this week…

To sit down and daydream for 15 to 20 minutes.

Then write me a comment and tell me, what is your authentic meaning to abundance in your life?

The Power Behind Living Life Uncomfortably

Living Life Uncomfortably

For years, I lived a comfortable life. Everything I did was for my pleasure in some way. I loved to work so working was very comfortable. I loved to play and played where I wanted to play. Yet, I grew bored, stagnant and eventually unhappy.

But the question was, “Why was I unhappy?”

I had food, clothes on my back, roof over my head. What was wrong?

I would like to take a moment here to describe what uncomfortable means to me. Uncomfortable means to get out of your comfort zone. What is a comfort zone you say? Here is what google says…

com·fort zone
a place or situation where one feels safe or at ease and without stress.
“times when we must act beyond our comfort zones”

Because I didn’t challenge myself, I stayed status quo. The greatest gift anyone has ever given me is to challenge me to be a better person. So when I say uncomfortable, I mean to reach beyond your limits.

  • If you have never spoke in front of an audience, go speak in front of an audience.
  • If you have never traveled alone, go travel alone.
  • If you have never driven across country, drive across country.
  • If you have always wanted to open your own business, tell fear to step aside and OPEN your own business.

Get Uncomfortable. And try to reach that feeling all the time. Strive for it. I do. I stretch my limits. I continuously grow, learn and feel a sense of joy from my adventurous life. As the famous Eleanor Roosevelt once said:

How will you move your life forward today?

What is the one thing that you really want to do but fear keeps getting in the way?


The question you should now be asking is the one I asked when I was ready to make a change. “How do I break out of this routine, behavioral rut to create a magical life?”

Yes, there is a science behind it; as least as told by Alan Henry from Mind Hacks.

Here are the steps I took from reading many blogs:

  • Change your Daily Routine. If you walk your dog the same route every morning, change the route. Instead of waking up at 7 AM, wake up at 6 AM and journal. Instead of going to cycling class every Wednesday go on Friday and on Wednesday do yoga. The goal here is to just break up your routine. See how you feel. Look for the different perspective that comes with any change. Write about it. How did that change move your life forward or confirm something about yourself? What fear presented itself because you changed the routine? If you can determine what is keeping you in that routine, then you can find the answer on how to break it.
  • Slow Down. Slowing down can be so important in our overall busy lives. I know that I move from one project to the next without even thinking about it sometimes. I am so quick in my processes that I forget to ask if this task is helping or hindering my long term goals. I think Gabrielle Bernstein has the best “wake up in the moment” questionnaire.

  • Be a YES Person. This is the one of the best methods to create magic. Did you ever see that movie with Jim Carrey called the YES MAN? The plot of the movie was a man who would always say no and hide from life. Then he decides to challenge himself to say YES to everything for one full year. I know it is just a movie, but the premise is so real. Say YES to experience. Say YES to something new. Say YES to life. As the old saying goes, if you want a life you have never had, you must take the steps you have never stepped. (yes it is my little twist ;))

One last quote from Neale Donald Walsch:

So get out there today. Get to that comfort zone line and then step over… No… JUMP OVER! Reach the place where Magic Begins.

Steps to Solving Reasonless Depression

I have come to a place in my life where on a normal day to day living, I successfully stay in a positive mindset and see the world through a happy lens. Yes, I am excitable but very little seems to stick with me longer then a hour or two or maybe (but rarely) a day or two, depending on the level of the labeled experience.

Yet, there are times where a reasonless depression takes over. This weekend was one of those times. I was depressed. For really no reason. I had food. I had clothes. I had a roof over my head. Gas in my car. There was no reason.

A client of mine just a week before was feeling a lot of anxiety. I had suggested something I had heard from several spiritual leaders that to fully remove an unwanted or undesirable feeling, you first must fully feel it.

“Okay. Let’s practice what we preach”, I thought.

I woke up on Monday morning and sat up with this heavy feeling on my shoulders. I first observed my body language. The sides of my lips curled down. My head hung low. My eyes, heavy and gazing at the ground. My muscles ached. A slight headache was at the edge of my forehead. I felt lethargic, lonely and unmotivated.

I grabbed my journal and wrote thoughts down that came from this overall feeling of nothingness. The thoughts were about me not being good enough. Failing like usual. Why am I even trying. More kept coming and I just kept writing them down as I heard them. Then I went over possible reasons for why my emotional body needed to feel this way. I wrote down about 6 and that is really when things started to move forward for me. They ranged from money to weight to a lost friendship to high expectations. I realized, I could have probably kept going but then I stopped. Depression was knocking on the door. It just wants to be heard and felt and loved. It wants a hug and understanding; compassion and a friend.

At this time, I decided to perform a visualization technique. I visualized opening the door, welcoming depression with open arms and giving him a big spiritual loving hug. We sat down at the wooden table and had tea. I listened, nodded and was really present in the moment for depression. I gave him compassion, love and understanding. I let the thoughts in my head escape onto the paper and then checked in. Asked if it needed to tell me more.

And there was more…

There was a gift. Depression said that he was worried about me. I work so hard with no breaks and really he was hear to check up on me. We both smiled and it was then that I realized the gift in full. Depression visits me when I need a break. When I need to slow down and sleep. Take time for reading and relaxing with my furchildren. To simply enjoy the sun and the outside. I looked at depression deep into his eyes and said, “Thank you. Thank you for being there for me. Thank you for slowing me down to rest. Thank you for your precious gift. For you arrived exactly on time. Exactly when I needed you.” And deep down inside, depression knew that. Then we enjoyed another big spiritual loving hug and I looked him square in the face one more time and said, “I LOVE YOU!”

At that moment, a smile came to my lips. My body no longer ached. My heart skipped a beat. Joy spread over me like a flowing river. My energy increased and I knew I was ready for the day no matter what may come. Depression looked right back at me and said, “Be Brave. Be Fearless. When you need me, I will be there again.”

All emotions have wonderful gifts to teach. May we be brave enough to listen, be open and accepting and ready for their precious gifts.

This taught me that for all feelings, we should observe them fully in our bodies, both emotional and physical. My Mo•Clar Moment was that my depression was simply a gift to slow me down and send me the much needed message of rest.

In Summary the Steps to Solve a Reasonless Depression are as follows:
  1. Fully feel it.
  2. Observe it physically.
  3. Record all these observations in a journal.
  4. Write the thoughts as they arrive to your conscious mind.
  5. Visualize an unattached conversation with the feeling. Be very detailed and imaginative.
  6. Listen closely for the gifts.
  7. Send lots of love, understanding and compassion.
  8. Be your own friend.
  9. Be thankful for that moment.
  10. Write down the overall meaning and then bless it.

Wake Up to Non-Judgement in 30 Seconds

Wednesday’s Inspirational Story

Today I was traveling to the office when a person in a blue pickup truck nearly hit me as we were getting off the freeway. At first my thought was, “How Rude.” And I had a first impression that this man was inconsiderate, impatient and egotistical about his status in the world thinking he was above all of us to do this type of thoughtless driving.

Then I slowly heard in a voice in my head saying, “Are you negatively judging him? How does this thought help your day?”

Ah, that voice always pulling you back to true reality. A smile formed on my lips as I gently nodded and agreed. I then remember one of my own principles that I teach…

Principle #3: Being Present with Non-Judgement

I tell a story about how we can be present with judgement and if we had non-judgement how that same scene would look with a different perspective. As I recalled that story, I readjusted my own way of thinking in that moment. I began to think that maybe he is in a hurry because his wife is in the hospital and he needs to get there fast. Maybe he is late for a job interview, the first one he has had in months. In reality, his story isn’t important.

What is important you say? Why, great question. Thank you for asking. 😉

What is important is reminding myself that I am driving to the office. How lucky am I to be able to afford a car to drive to the office. Some in this world cannot. The freedom of driving at all is a joy to me. One that only a few generations have been able to experience. I remember with crystal clear detail the day I turned 16 and the feeling of getting my license. It was one of the best days of my life.

I caught myself early enough in the judging process to realign with my true beliefs and how I really want to show up in the world, which is with compassion and understanding. My other thought was how grateful I am to wake up so fast in that moment. I have been practicing for some years now and to see it all come together in 30 seconds is such a joy.

Then as I watched him speed off when the light turned green, I blessed him and his day and wished him all the best.

For me… I was smiling ear to ear with an open mind.



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Visualization Technique to Nice, France

As promised, I completed my visualization technique yesterday to Nice, France. I spent about 45 minutes really visualizing it and looking up pictures and feeling what it was like to sit in the cafes, stay at the hotels, and walk on the cobblestone streets. I began my visualization with going to the San Diego Airport and standing in line at security feeling those exciting feeling for going to France for a day. I knew that in my pack, I had an extra pair of clothes, a tooth brush and toothpaste, my hair brush, a book to read and my journal to write in. I checked my pockets to make sure I had my camera so I could take lots of pictures. Next I saw in my mind’s eye me sitting waiting to board. Then walking over to Starbucks for some hot water to put in my coffee cup for my favorite Yogi Green Tea that I always bring with me everywhere I go.

Now I am on the plane, watching a romantic movie on the seat in front of me. I love when you can choose your movies or watch TV on those little screens right in front of you. Really makes the plane ride so much faster. Arial Nice FranceBefore I knew it was I departing from the plane and I had arrived in Nice, France. Secret…the best part about taking a trip in your mind’s eye is that you get a non-stop flight to your destination. 😉

Ah! The first blast of warm air as I step out of the airport. Now since this is my luxury trip, a limo is waiting to take me to my hotel. How exciting to ride in a comfortable limo with infused cucumber and lemon water waiting for me inside. We drive through the city streets slow so I can see this beautiful place they call Nice, France. Me…joyous and happy and smiling from ear to ear.

We arrive at Hotel La Perouse. I will be staying for only a day but it is so beautiful and refreshing. I have a deck so I can enjoy the sun and breeze as I read my favorite book or work on my musing for my blog. By lunch I am hungry and feeling that tug to go and explore the surroundings. I first visit the flower market on Cours Selaya and do a little shopping. Take pictures at the Russian Orthodox Cathedral and the Fountain Plaza Massena. I stop to hear jazz in the plaza and tip the gentleman for the nice music he played on his saxophone. What a beautiful day with the temperature an even 74 degrees, slightly cloudy, mostly sunny. Where I stop to eat, simply must have the best french cheese and sun dried tomatoes. After lunch, I walk along the Promenade des Anglais, visit the art galleries, and see more of the beautiful churches. I spend time at the hidden gem of Nice, Parc Phoenix, a haven of wildlife, gardens and fountains.

By this time it is time to rest and finish the day at a romantic cafe on the main street where action is all around and conversations are animated. As I finally make my way back to Hotel La Perouse, I am tired but filled with joy and happiness. I am now ready to move forward with my work knowing that my day in Nice, France was exactly what I needed to renew and refresh.