A story is only a good story if it has challenges and triumphs from those challenges. At least that is what the movies tell us. 😉
Recently, I decided to move from California to Colorado. I think I just needed a change of pace; a change of scenery. Maybe, it was that I needed to be inspired again and sometimes a move does this for you.
When I arrived in Colorado, I asked the universe for two things. I was ready for a relationship and to begin dating again. I was also ready to finally purchase a home and become a home owner.
I looked to the sky and told the energies that I was very grateful for all they have done for me. I am very blessed and live a blessed life. I let them know that my request that will follow is simply a desire that if granted would bring me even more uplifting energy. Then I closed my eyes, felt love in my heart and said out loud…
I really want a home to call my own.
Just weeks later I found a cute little house, perfect for me. It has a sunroom that I will turn into a meditation / atrium room. It has three bedrooms and three baths, with space for guests. It has this wonderful old Colorado mountainesque character; real wood throughout the whole house.
As soon as I stepped inside, I felt an ease. I felt at home. I thought this is it. It needed some love as it was built in 1984 and needed to be updated but I thought I was the perfect person to give it the love it needed.
So, I bought the house.
As previous and current home owners may know, you only get to see the home two or three times before purchasing the home. The night I received the keys, I stretched out on the floor of the living room, filled with the satisfaction of being a proud new homeowner.
That’s when I caught a whiff of something.
I began to sniff.
Rolled over. Got on my hands and knees. Put my face into the carpet.
Ah, There’s no mistaking the smell of cat pee.
How the 7 Levels of Energy helped me see the light
So here I am in my living room, realizing that I might have to not only paint and fix some out of date issues but now, rip up my carpet.
Ever hear about the 5 stages of grief? Well, I work with this other thing called the 7 levels of energy.
Here’s what happened next.
Level 1: Victim
I quickly recognized that I was feeling a lot of level one in this moment. The level one energy is a victim energy. Like, “Woe is me” or the Murphy’s Law Syndrome, “These things always happen to me.”
I knew I didn’t want to be a victim. I know I am always in charge of my life. I didn’t have to purchase this home. I chose to. So, I made a conscious effort to move to level two and get angry at the previous owner for not disclosing how bad this situation was.
Level 2: Anger
Many people think that anger is a very negative feeling or emotion. But anger can also be this great catalyst to motivate yourself into action. And I wanted to get motivated to solve the challenge. Yet, I didn’t move quite as fast as I had hoped. I went from level two, anger to level three, coping.
Level 3: Rationalizing / Coping
When I told the story to my family I would say things like, “Well, I have pets. At least these pets had a good home. Maybe the previous owners lived with the smell so long that they didn’t even notice.” Level three is a lot of this making excuses or rationalizing for other people. I got stuck in this level for about three days.
Level 4: Martyrdom
I never did hit level four. Level four is a level I, affectionately, call The Mother Theresa. It is the level that you give yourself and your time to others. You think of them before you think of yourself. I bypassed this level all together. But if I would have hit it, it might have looked like this…
“Well, I am glad the other owners didn’t have to take care of this. It would have been just too much money and time for them to deal with. They would have had to stay in the hotel longer and our close date might have been pushed back causing them not to move to Florida sooner.”
See how that thought pattern above really thinks of other people, instead of thinking of yourself. Many people think this is an honorable level and I can agree that we need more Mother Theresa’s in the world. Yet, this is a very draining level to sit at if you always forget about you.
Level 5: Win-win
Level five is a level that wants both sides to win. For me a level five would have tried to find the positive out of this experience for both me and the previous owners. Again, I kind of skipped this level. If we take a moment now, I would say the win for me is that I know I am hiring a good carpet cleaner and I know for sure that the carpets are getting cleaned to my satisfaction. For the previous owner, their win is they didn’t have to spend money and time doing this.
Level 6: Joy
Level six, is one of my favorite levels. The person who sits at a level six energy finds joy in everything. There is no win or lose, there simply is joyful experience. The level six would have been interested in how to clean the urine. What chemicals are used? Do they have to be toxic? Can they be organic? Whom should I call? They would find joy from finding it to solving it to enjoying the whole process. This is where I arrived for a short time.
I learned a lot about cat and dog urine. I learned how to use a black light. I learned what a fresh spot looks like and what an old spot looks like. I was educated on what to do when I purchase a home again. I could say that this whole experience in some weird way may have been enjoyable on an educational level. 🙂 Yet, I didn’t sit in this level too long either.
Level 7: Observer
Instead I just kind of moved up to the last level, level seven. Level seven is simply being an observer of the experience. There is no joy, no anger, no excitement, no sadness, no depression, there is no true emotion that we feel. Level seven can be very Spock like. So if you think to yourself, how would Spock look at this challenge, then you are more than likely coming from a level seven.
I am always reminded of that saying from that movie 7 years in Tibet:
“If a problem can be solved there is no use worrying about it. If it can’t be solved, worrying will do no good.”
To me, this saying is a level seven. It simply means that there is no need to stress or worry about a thing. Either solve it or don’t. Either way is fine. You will always move forward. You will always get to the other side. Just observe. Be curious. Watch how life unfolds.
At the end of the day, this is where I ended. I can easily fix this new challenge. I can easily know that all will be taken care of. Was it ideal? Well, you be the judge.
If you are looking at it from a high level, then ideal does not exist but at the same time it exists everywhere! 🙂
For today’s exercise, just take time to really embody that saying from 7 Years in Tibet.
If you are having a challenge, ask yourself, can it be solved? If yes, then take the time to learn how to solve it with a mindset that it is already solved and you are simply finding the solution that is already there.
And if it cannot be solved, then take time to accept what is in front you and know that the universe never gives you anything that you cannot handle.
About the 7 Levels of Energy
The 7 levels of Energy is an energy leadership system developed by a man named Bruce Schneider. Each energy has a very distinct character to it.
I offer the Energy Leadership Index Assessment as an individual service and it can really help you move through life with less struggles just by having the ability to see the different perspectives in a situation and the energy level you are presenting to the current perceived struggle or challenge.
If you are interested, schedule a dream session with me and we can go over what this knowledge can help you release in your life.
If you feel drawn to share your story, I am always blessed to receive it. Namaste.